My sessions focus on helping you build a meaningful life where creativity and purpose unite to produce change. Change is a process, not an event!
Taking into consideration your daily reality: the normal, the exciting, and the annoying stuff. It is important to build clarity about how you process your thought patterns.
Throughout my Life Coaching Sessions, we'll work with your perception of how you interact with the world around you. This is where we bring your narrative into a larger context.
As you exercise self-awareness you will gradually learn how to sort out and deal with your emotions. The more committed you are to the rhythm of your Life Coaching sessions, the further you will go unveiling and working with those aspects that limit your vital potential.
Slowly, you'll feel driven to make better decisions. You will connect to the higher aspects of yourself as you work from within with a brighter and lighter state of mind. At this point, you will see the big difference between discernment, and judgment.
Holistic Life Coaching Concept Message
'We are the pioneers in the evolution of human consciousness'
Millions of years ago when our animal ancestors had to survive in the jungle, it was necessary to have an instantly effective fight or flight mechanism. When a tiger was about to spring, automatic emotional response was a life saver. A nervous shock was needed to squirt adrenalin into the blood so that the muscles became jet powered. Emotional alarms were needed to command full attention when a tiger was ready to jump.
As a jungle survival mechanism, our animal ancestors were programmed for automatic duality - automatic feelings of otherness, threat, and even paranoia. Survival required instant domination of consciousness to meet the perils of the jungle.
We are the pioneers in the evolution of human consciousness. It was only about 10,000 years ago that our ancestors built the first cities. As civilization grew, survival no longer depended on the instant fight or flight of the jungle. Survival and happiness now depend on tuning in to the overall situation involving ourselves, the people around us, and the total environment of the here and now.
Perceptiveness, wisdom, and oneness are now the ingredients of effective and happy living. But our neurological mechanisms are still programmed for jungle fight or flight - for a fast release of adrenalin into the bloodstream, and for a rapid heartbeat - for automatic anger and fear. In our social interactions, our consciousness magnifies molehills and makes them into mountains - and this constant distortion destroys our energy, our insight, and our ability to love.
Thus survival in the jungle meant that we had to be programmed for instant paranoia - instant fear, instant anger, instant perception of duality. Survival in our world today means that we must have instant perceptions of oneness, of love, of compassion with everyone and understanding of most things around us. When we learn to cut through our paranoid jungle programming, we are on our way to higher consciousness and happiness.
Evolution is now working to remedy this primitive jungle alarm wiring in our brain that tends to hold us on a lower consciousness level. Paranoid, dualistic individuals who cannot love themselves and others tend to get heart trouble, ulcers, other psychosomatic diseases, are accident-prone, etc. As we evolve as sophisticated thinkers, perhaps in a few hundred years, through the ruthless survival of the fittest, humans may have nervous systems that are automatically structured to produce instant insights that facilitate love and oneness. But that doesn’t help you and me. We need the Living Love Way to show us how to live in higher consciousness as soon as possible, to override our jungle programming so that we can enjoy living here and now.
We have escaped from the domination of instincts (inflexible unlearned behavior) that guides animals through their daily life situations. Since the young human is not provided with a full repertoire of automatic fixed responses, we are unable to independently cope with life for a number of years after birth. This long period of plasticity and openness to learning complex life guidance patterns help us avoid fixed preprogrammed behavior. For example, this long nurturing period lets us learn complex language systems - and our flexibility is such that we can learn to communicate in French, Polish as easily as in English or any other language.
Instead of a complete pattern of animal-type instincts to provide survival responses to life situations, the young child uses ego mechanisms backed by hair-trigger emotions to develop security, sensation, and power magnification of the moment-to-moment sensory inputs. Our personal development into fulfilling, happy lives (as well as the progression of civilization beyond the dangerous power consciousness), depends on our getting free of our ego-backed, subject-object, me/you, me/them, security-sensation-power hang-ups.
It may be helpful to see this progression of consciousness in an outline for as follows:
Method of Protecting and Enhancing the Organism
Animal - Relatively fixed lifestyle based on instinct or unlearned preprogrammed behavior.
Lower Consciousness Human - Ego-directed, subject-object, emotion-backed security, sensation, and power consciousness (increasingly involving the rational mind) that makes us inflexibly guard and protect habitual folkways and personal patterns.
Higher Consciousness Human - Ego-driven negative emotions have been replaced by wide-ranging insight and deep intuitive understanding giving full flexibility to flow in mutually supportive and loving ways with no inflexible folkways, and personal patterns.
The neurological biodynamics - with which you are equipped - is the most remarkable instrument in the Universe. Your only problem is to learn how to use it properly. It is capable of handling two million visual inputs and one hundred thousand auditory inputs at any one time. Your neurological biodynamics operates continually throughout all of its parts and is capable of making millions of simultaneous computations. It operates with enormous power primarily on unconscious levels - with only a tiny portion of its activity rising to the level of consciousness. The conscious level of your neurological biodynamics is analogous to the print-out of the man-made computers. Your journey into higher consciousness is a matter of your learning how to properly program your remarkable neurological biodynamics. When you learn to operate your exquisite mechanism, you will be able to fully realize your potential for a happy life.
Most of us go through life not knowing what we want. Over 99% of the people in the western world live on lower consciousness levels characterized by trying to find enough security, sex, "groovy" sensations, ego rushes, prestige, money, power, and status. This endless struggle yield lives on constant resentment, worry, suspicion, anger, jealousy, shyness, and fear. Everything people tell themselves they must do to be happy ends up yielding more frustration than joy. The more successful a person is in making money, collecting skills, and possessions, developing exciting sexual relationships, acquiring knowledge and degrees, and achieving positions of status, power and prestige, the less loving, peaceful, and contented he may find herself or himself.
And yet it is not these things in and of themselves that create an unhappy life - it is the internal mental addiction or desire for that minute-by-minute that keeps one from enjoying life. Addictions (or emotional-backs demands) bring fear of non-fulfillment; paranoia if constantly threatened; boredom if we are making no progress toward satisfying our addictions; worry if we can't see a steady supply; anxiety if we're worried about being worried; and unhappiness when the outside world does not supply us with whatever it is we are addicted to. Since the nature of life is such that we win some and lose some, and the addicted person has no chance of living a happy, loving, peaceful, conscious, wise, and effective life. And addictive programming is not necessary to find and enjoy that which we prefer in life.
You are ready for growth into the happiness of higher consciousness when you realize the utter futility of trying to live a beautiful life by your efforts to rearrange or change the world of people and things outside of you to fit your addictions and desires. You will find you have only to rearrange your own personal, automatically programmed responses to life situations -- most of which are childhood hangups.
As you work toward higher levels of consciousness, you will find that you have always had enough to be happy. It is the patterns in your head that make you unhappy, although you usually blame the people and conditions outside you for your unhappiness. Your journey into higher consciousness can enable you to be loving, peaceful, wise, and free of a constant barrage of unpleasant emotional feelings.
Living Love offers you four advantages in your adventure into higher consciousness:
For many people, it can be one of the most powerful and rapid ways for growth into a higher consciousness that has ever been available to mankind.
It does not require you to detach yourself from your present life. Living Love can be used most effectively if you stay with your present business, personal life, and other conditions until you have grown to a high enough state of consciousness to be fully perceptive of the arbitrary mores, folkways, and social roles you are guarding and living out.
Once you thoroughly understand the system, it is not essential to have a teacher for continuing your growth. Your life will be your best teacher, for you will discover that you are always putting yourself into learning situations that are ideal for your growth. The programming that you most need to change has an unerring way of putting you into life situations that can make you aware of the exact inner work you should be doing.
When you use the Living Love Way to find the love, inner peace, wisdom, and effectiveness of higher consciousness, your inner work on yourself immediately adds to your enjoyment of life. With the Living Love Way, happiness is not a distant goal -- it is an ever-growing part of your here and now.
Think of the energy you now put into the up-and-down hour-by-hour coping with your feelings while you continually try to rearrange the people and situations in your life so that you can then be loving, serene, effective, and happy. And yet year by year your quest for happiness is as elusive as finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Since almost everyone around you seems to be having similar trouble in becoming a happy, loving being, you may have lowered your standards and decided that continuous happiness is probably not realistic.
The Living Love Way invites you to set the highest imaginable standards of love, serenity, peace, wisdom, effectiveness, and continuous happiness for your life. and then you are ready to begin your journey into higher consciousness.
Secrets of Happiness
Why do we have lives filled with turmoil, desperation, and anxiety? Why are we always pushing ourselves and others? Why do we have only small dribbles of peace, love, and happiness? Why is it that human beings are characterized by bickering and turmoil that make animals’ relationships with their own species seem peaceful in comparison? The answer is so simple -- but it is sometimes difficult for us to really understand because almost every way we were taught to work toward happiness only reinforces the feelings and activities that make us unhappy.
This is a central point that must be understood. The ways we were taught to be happy can’t possibly work. Unless we see this point clearly, we cannot progress to higher consciousness. Here’s why.
Most of us assume that our desires (backed up by our emotional feelings) are the true guides to doing the things that will make us happy. But no one has yet found happiness by using emotion-backed desires as guides. Flashes of pleasure, yes; happiness, no.
Our wants and desires are so seductive . . . They masquerade as “needs” that must be satisfied so we can be happy at last. They lead us from one illusion of happiness to another. Some of us tell ourselves, “if I can just get to be president of this corporation, I will be happy.” But have you ever seen a really happy president? His outside drama may feature beautiful yachts, Cadillacs, Playboy bunnies -- but is he really happy inside? Has his ulcer gone away yet?
We constantly tell ourselves such things as “If I could just go back to school and acquire more knowledge -- perhaps get a Master’s degree -- then I will be happy.” But are people with Master’s degrees or Ph.D.’s any happier than the rest of us? It is beautiful to acquire knowledge but it is misleading to expect it to bring us peace, love, and happiness.
We tell ourselves, “If I could only find the right person to love, then I would be happy.” So we search for someone whom our addictions tell us is the right person -- and we experience some pleasurable moments. But since we don’t know how to love, the relationship gradually deteriorates. Then we decided we didn’t have the right person after all! As we grow into higher consciousness, we discover that it is more important to be the right person than to find the right person.
We must deeply understand why all of our negative emotions are misleading guides to effective action in life situations. Our negative emotions are simply the result of an extensive pattern of scars and wounds that we have experienced. And these emotional wounds lead us to perceive differences that make us uptight instead of similarities that enable us to understand and love. The present programming of our emotions makes us perceive other people (and the conditions of the world around us) as threats -- potentially dangerous to our well-being. We then respond with adrenalin, faster heartbeat, increased blood sugar, and other jungle survival responses that prepare us for fight or flight. We are trapped in our ways of perceiving the world around us.
But no one (or no situation) need to be felt like an emotional threat or danger when we see things with a clearer perception of higher consciousness. Think of the most threatening situation you have felt in the last day or two. Are you about to lose your job? Is the person for whom you feel the most love paying more attention to someone else than to you? Do you have unpaid bills that you cannot take care of? Do you have a pain that could be cancer? Now, these problems either have solutions -- or they don’t. Either you can do something about them here and now -- or you can’t. If you can do something here and now about them, then do it -- even if it’s just a first step. It saps your energy to be worried or anxious about a problem. Do what you can do -- but don’t be addicted to the results or you will create more worry for yourself. If you can’t do anything about a problem here and now, then why make yourself uncomfortable and drain your energy by worrying about it? It is part of the here and newness of your life. That’s what is -- here and now. Worry, anxiety or other unpleasant emotions are absolutely unnecessary -- and simply lower your insight and the effectiveness of your actions.
You must absolutely convince yourself of the lack of utility of these draining emotions. You must see your unnecessary worrying as depriving you of the flowing effectiveness and joyousness that you should have in your life. As long as you think that these negative emotions have any function whatsoever, you will retard your growth into higher consciousness. If you do not hassle yourself emotionally when the outside world does not conform with your inside programming (your desires, expectations, demands, or models of how the world should treat you) you will have so much energy that you probably will sleep fifty percent less. You will be joyous and loving, and really appreciate each moment of your life -- no matter what’s happening in the world of people and situations outside you.
Where and how did we get this emotional programming? Almost all of it was acquired in the first few years of life. For example, when we were very young, we had the experience of mother forcefully taking a perfume bottle from our tiny fingers and at the same time sending out bad vibrations based on her desire not to have her perfume bottle broken. We cried. Through being painfully pushed around, dominated, told what to do, and controlled when we were babies, we developed our emotionally intense security, sensation, and power programs. Many of our emotion-backed programs came from repeated moral directives or statements about how things “should” be. We developed a “self” consciousness with robot-like emotional responses to protect the “survival” of this separate self.
So we become emotionally programmed to feel that we must have the power to control and manipulate people in order to be happy. We eventually become very finely attuned to the actions or vibrations of any person or situation that even remotely threatens our power addictions -- our ability to manipulate and control people and things around us.
As we reach physical maturity and our biocomputer (or brain) is able to function more perceptively, we have all the power we need. But our biocomputer (backed up by the full repertory of our emotions) is still programmed to compensate for the power deficiency we experienced when we were infants and young children. We now need to learn to flow with the people and things around us. But our power addiction keeps us from loving people because we perceive them as objects that may threaten our power, prestige, or pecking order. If we want to love and be loved, we can’t be addicted to power -- or to anything else.
As conscious beings, the only thing we need to find happiness in life is to perceive clearly who we are (we are pure consciousness and not the social roles we are acting out), and exactly what are the real conditions, here and now, of our lives. How basically simple is our problem! But to achieve this clear perception of ourselves and the world around us takes constant inner work. And this means developing the habit of emotionally accepting whatever is here and now in our lives. For only, an emotionally calm biocomputer can see clearly and wisely, and come up with effective ways to interact with people and situations.
Our power addiction is only one example of the happiness-destroying programming that we put into our biocomputers when we were too young to perceive the realities of the world in which we lived. Although we now have the basic capacity for clear perception, the operating instructions we gave our biocomputer anchor us to the lower levels. And so we’re unconsciously trapped.
Here and now is the reality in our lives -- and it is only from the conditions of the present that our future can be generated. But our present addictions, demands, and expectations (the programming of our biocomputer) dominate our consciousness and force us to spend most of the time we are awake (and most of the time we are dreaming) in protesting and pouting about the here and now situated in our lives. This lowers our perceptiveness and keeps us from finding effective solutions to our problems. The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness shows us how to break through this trap, to free ourselves, and to find our full potential as human beings.
The Law of Higher Consciousness
Your growth into higher consciousness should begin by fully understanding the importance of becoming one with the Law of Higher Consciousness: Love everyone unconditionally, including yourself!
This law can enable you to find the hidden splendor within yourself and others. Unfortunately, we have never been taught how to love unconditionally. Almost all of our loving has been motivated by emotional desires programmed into us at an early age. Most of our love experiences have taught us we must earn or deserve love before we can have it -- and that others must deserve our love. This is conditional love -- it is like barter or a business transaction. It is no wonder that our well-meaning but unskilled attempts to love usually end up in separation and alienation. We have been taught to place conditions on our love: “If you really loved me you would . . .” -- and then we use one of our addictions to finish the sentence. This is an exchange -- it is not unconditional love.
What is unconditional love? It is not, “I can love you if you do what my emotional programming -- my addictions -- says I want you to do.” It is just love. Just, “I love you because you are there. I love you because you are part of the nowness of my life. I love you because although our bodies and minds may be on different trips, on the consciousness level all of us are alike in our humanness. We are one.”
Real love is simply accepting another person. Completely and unconditionally! We experience things from his or her psychic space. It is like seeing the world through his or her eyes. Whatever he or she is going through -- whatever he or she is feeling -- we have been there, too -- at some time in our lives.
When we love, we view others as unfolding beings in their journey toward higher consciousness. We realize that no matter how intensely we strive for worldly attainments, we all seek love and oneness on the consciousness level. We are all on the journey to higher consciousness. Some of us are hearing the messages life offers us and are working consciously to eliminate our addictions. Others are not progressing rapidly because they do not yet know how to consciously work on themselves.
We must also learn to love ourselves -- right here and now. We need to feel that no matter how horrible we have judged our past actions, each day our life begins anew. We have at all times been lovable. A child may be naughty, but he is always lovable. And so we are all children as long as we are programmed with our lower consciousness addictions. So we must accept the melodramas we get involved in as we live out our current crop of addictions. This, too, is a part of life and growth.
Every part of the system of Living Love is designed to help you learn to love everyone unconditionally -- including yourself. You only need to plant the living Love seeds in your consciousness and they will automatically sprout. Do not berate yourself because you are not enlightened by the third Tuesday of next month. The more you learn to love and accept yourself, the more you will realize that you are doing exactly what you need to do to provide yourself with experiences to grow into higher consciousness.
How can you love others if you do not love yourself? The love you have for yourself and the love you have for “another” are building blocks joining together within you to create the beautiful edifice of real love.
Learning to love unconditionally means getting free of interference from our programmed addictions -- those emotion-backed demanding instructions to our biocomputer. This enables us to perceive clearly what is here and now -- to evaluate wisely -- and to act effectively to do whatever we want to do about it. They key to this is the instant emotional acceptance of the here and now -- the emotional acceptance of the previously unacceptable.
When our emotions are triggered, we cannot perceive clearly our actual life situation. Our biocomputer then sends a flow of information to our consciousness in which separation and alienation are emphasized. We create a horribly warped evaluation of the here and now based on our addictive programming. When this happens, we magnify differences and suppress similarities between ourselves and “others.” And this destroys our ability to love unconditionally.
We all know that just having the desire to love is not enough. As far back as we can remember we have been aware of the importance of love in our lives. We know that lack of love is responsible for most of the unhappiness in the world -- for difficulties in getting along with other people, for pollution, prejudice, wars, and other individual and group crimes against humanity. but what can we do about it?
The Law of Higher Consciousness suggests a practical guide for the Aquarian Age:
You add suffering to the world just as much when you take offense as when you give offense. The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness can show you step by step why you find it so difficult to love, and exactly what to do about it. The Twelve Pathways given in the following chapter tell you what you need to do to live in the Oneness Ocean of Love all of the time.
The Twelve Pathways
The Twelve Pathways To the Higher Consciousness Planes of Unconditional Love and Oneness
1. I am freeing myself from security, sensation, and power addictions that make me try to forcefully control situations in my life, and thus destroy my serenity and keep me from loving myself and others.
2. I am discovering how my consciousness-dominating addictions create my illusory version of the changing world of people and situations around me.
3. I welcome the opportunity (even if painful) that my minute-to-minute experience offers me to become aware of the addictions I must reprogram to be liberated from my robot-like emotional patterns.
Being Here Now
4. I always remember that I have everything I need to enjoy my here and now -- unless I am letting my consciousness be dominated by demands and expectations based on the dead past or the imagined future.
5. I take full responsibility here and now for everything I experience, for it is my own programming that creates my actions and also influences the reactions of people around me.
6. I accept myself completely here and now and consciously experience everything I feel, think, say, and do (including my emotion-backed addictions) as a necessary part of my growth into higher consciousness.
Interacting with Others
7. I open myself genuinely to all people by being willing to fully communicate my deepest feelings, since hiding in any degree keeps me stuck in my illusion of separateness from other people.
8. I feel with loving compassion the problems of others without getting caught up emotionally in their predicaments that are offering them messages they need for their growth.
9. I act freely when I am tuned in, centered, and loving, but if possible I avoid acting when I am emotionally upset and depriving myself of the wisdom that flows from love and expanded consciousness.
Discovering my Conscious-Awareness
10. I am continually calming the restless scanning of my rational mind in order to perceive the finer energies that enable me to unitively merge with everything around me.
11. I am constantly aware of which of the Seven Centers of Consciousness I am using, and I feel my energy, perceptiveness, love, and inner peace growing as I open all of the Centers of Consciousness.
12. I am perceiving everyone, including myself, as an awakening being who is here to claim his or her birthright to the higher consciousness planes of unconditional love and oneness.
The Twelve Pathways are a modern, practical condensation of thousands of years of accumulated wisdom. They give you a minute-to-minute guide for operating your consciousness while you interact with the world around you. They will enable you to live a continuously happy, conscious, loving, joyous, fulfilled life. If you’ve had enough of the up-and-down roller-coaster between pleasure and pain, and are really ready to enjoy and get the most out of your life all of the time, then you are ready to use and apply the Twelve Pathways to make a dramatic change in your life. In the following four chapters, we will discuss each of the Twelve Pathways in detail.
The Twelve Pathways to Higher Consciousness can show you how to accelerate your spiritual development and enable you to begin a new life of Living Love. These Pathways can show you the way to find the beauty and happiness that is hidden within you. You were erroneously taught that happiness lies in getting people and things outside of you lined up exactly to suit your desires. But our desires multiply so much faster than our capacity to satisfy them! In the Living Love System, addiction is any desire that makes you upset or unhappy if it is not satisfied. Life is warning you to get rid of an addiction every time you are emotionally uncomfortable in any way.
Even if an addiction brings you pleasure, that pleasure is usually short-lived. For you will then begin to perceive threats to that pleasure, and you will worry about changes in your life that will deprive you of the pleasure. And you compare today’s pleasure with yesterday’s pleasure -- and often find today’s pleasure is not quite as satisfying. All of this keeps you out of the here and now. You make a giant step toward higher consciousness when you become fully aware of the price in happiness you must pay for each addiction. You can enjoy the same actions and experiences completely when you uplevel the addiction to the status of a preference.
As you become increasingly aware of how your consciousness operates, you will be able to distinguish between your bio-computer and the programming that your biocomputer uses. For example, a million-dollar IBM computer may work perfectly, but if you put garbage-type programming in it, you will get garbage-type results from this splendid machine. Computer specialists use the word “GIGO” to refer to this problem -- “Garbage in - Garbage out.” If you are not continuously loving everyone around you and continue enjoying the here-and-now situations in your life, it means that your magnificent biocomputer has been operating from “garbage-type” programming. When you see yourself consciously and clearly, you realize that you are perfect -- your only problem is to change some of the programming from which you are operating.
Your ego also plays a crucial part in the operation of your biocomputer. Based on past pleasure and pain programming, your ego selects which of the thousands of programs will be used to generate your feelings and experience of what is happening. Your ego is like a master controller that directs which emotional feelings will be triggered (joy, pleasure, anger, grief, fear, disappointment, irritation, etc.) Your ego also chooses exactly what will be projected onto the screen of your consciousness. You are aware only of what your ego permits you to be aware of. When your ego is busy reacting to the people and things around you from the lower three Centers of Consciousness, your primary awareness will be focused on what you desire and what you fear -- thereby creating in you the feeling of an urgent priority. Most of these lower consciousness programs represent the urgent priorities you had at the age of two years old. Until you reprogram and change these inappropriate childhood programs, you will continually turn off the energy of the world around you that you need in order to live in a beautiful world of higher consciousness.
There are five stages in learning to use these Pathways. Each stage enables you to be progressively more aware of how these Pathways produce beautiful and sometimes “miraculous” changes in your life.
In the first stage, you are unaware of the Pathways. You are unconsciously playing out the drama of your life. You are going through your daily patterns of desiring and rejecting people and things in a mechanical and unconscious way.
In the second stage, when something happens or when someone says something that you don’t like, you upset yourself even though you are aware of the Twelve Pathways. You are beginning to see how they can make your life work when you use them at the programming level where they will facilitate your interpretation of the here and now. However, you are still susceptible to your old programming which makes you automatically angry if someone criticizes you or automatically afraid if someone triggers your security addictions. The great thing about this second stage is that you are becoming aware of the lower consciousness programming that your tend to automatically run off, and you realize that there is a programming that you can use to create continuous enjoymentand happiness in your life.
In the third stage of learning to use the Pathways, you find that as soon as you are aware of any uncomfortable feelings, such as fear, anger, jealousy, grief, etc., you can pinpoint which of the Pathways you are violating. By thus engaging your rational mind and interpreting your experience by using a Pathway, you find that you progressively cut down on the period of unconsciousness in which you are a slave to your older, lower consciousness programming. In the third stage, it may take several hours for you to dispel the negative emotions you are experiencing, But you now begin to find that the amount of time that you are upset is being gradually reduced so that you experience negative emotions only for a period of minutes, or even seconds. You can still trigger negative emotional feelings, but you are getting free from them faster and faster.
In the fourth stage, you find that if someone does something you do not like, you may start to get angry, but at that same instant one or two Pathways flash into your consciousness. These give you an insight which does not allow the anger response to develop. You experience an increasing freedom. Your ability to love, accept, and interact flowingly with other people increases enormously.
At the fifth stage, you have eliminated all of the lower consciousness programming which triggered your negative emotional responses. You simply respond to whatever is happening here and now by using one of the Pathways (either consciously or unconsciously) in interpreting what is happening. You may be aware that you used to get angry or jealous in this type of situation, but the feeling of anger or jealousy is no longer triggered. You realize that you are the master of your mind, for you have determined the programming with which you want your mind to operate. This is one of the most fulfilling things that you can do.
As soon as you begin to use the Twelve Pathways in your everyday life situations, you will find that your life takes on a beautiful new dimension. Things that were previously nagging problems now become vital experiences that you confidently use in the important job of reprogramming your biocomputer. You are beginning to realize that everything that happens to you is really perfect, for you experience either happiness -- because it fits the patterns of the programming of your biocomputer -- or you experience the beginning of a negative emotion which is giving you a welcomed opportunity to work on reprogramming your biocomputer so that you will not have this problem in the future.
Memorizing The Twelve Pathwayshelps you use them as programming in shaping your perceptions below conscious levels. Just reading them for intellectual understanding will not permit you to use them as dynamic tools that can make your life work. Use the Pathways in interpreting your moment-to-moment stream of consciousness. They can lead you straight into higher consciousness and enable you to find the love, happiness, wisdom, and fulfillment that is your birthright in life.
An addiction is a programming (or operating instruction to your biocomputer) that triggers uncomfortable emotional responses and excites your consciousness if the world does not fit the programmed pattern in your mind. The identifying characteristic of an addiction is that if your desire is not fulfilled, you respond emotionally in a computer-like way and automatically play out a program of anger, worry, anxiety, jealousy, fear, etc. That which you emotionally avoid is just as much an addiction as is something you desire.
I am freeing myself from security, sensation, and power addictions that make me try to forcefully control situations in my life, and thus destroy my serenity and keep me from loving myself and others.
Why do addictions destroy happiness? Are there some harmless addictions? Can’t I have even one addiction? Aren’t there good addictions like addictions for love, knowledge, or consciousness growth?
Of course, you can have one addiction, or any number you want, but for each one, you pay a price in lost happiness. Since an addiction is backed up by the full rush of your emotions, each addiction from time to time puts you in a state of emotional warfare with yourself and others. They dominate your consciousness and keep you from perceiving clearly. Addictions separate you from others, for everyone is instantly valued by the degree to which you suspect threat or support. Addictions are not needed because you can do the same things and enjoy the same life experiences on a non-addictive basis. Through higher consciousness, you can have every beautiful experience that life offers you.
All things in the world around us are constantly changing. Our bodies and minds are constantly changing. These changes, moment by moment, month by month, year by year, affect our ability to make the flow of our life conform to the arbitrary addictive patterns that we desire and expect. So we’re caught in an absolutely endless moment-to-moment struggle to make the outside world fit in with our addictions. And it is always a futile struggle in the end. No one that ever lived has ever had enough power, prestige, or knowledge to overcome the basic condition of all life -- you win some and you lose some.
The operation of our lower consciousness feelings is such that even if we satisfy many addictions during a day, the one addiction that was not satisfied will prey on our consciousness and make us unhappy. There is just no way to win the battle of our addictions. There are no addictions without unhappiness, although with the higher addictions (love and consciousness growth) you experience less suffering than with the lower level addictions of security, sensations, and power.
As long as you have addictions, your exquisite biocomputer -- your mind -- will be dominated by the vain attempt to help you find happiness by manipulating the world around you into fitting your addictions. A mind dominated by addictions is not able to tune in to the finer vibrations of the surrounding people and things -- just as a drummer who plays too loudly can keep you from hearing the violins and flutes of a symphony. To be fully here and now, you must be able to experience all of the instruments of the symphony. To live in the beauty of higher consciousness, you must be able to perceive both the grosser and the more subtle aspects of the world around you. Addictions are not evil or bad -- they just cost you too much in lost perceptiveness, wisdom, effectiveness, and happiness.
Addictions always cause unhappiness sooner or later. Preferences never do. When an addiction is not satisfied, you are unhappy. When an addiction is satisfied, you feel momentary pleasure, relief, or indifference. When a preference is not satisfied, you are simply indifferent -- it was only a preference after all. But when it is satisfied, it adds to the texture and beauty of your life. Your ego and rational mind do not have to guard the source of your satisfaction because you are not depending on it for happiness. Upleveling all of your addictions to the status of preferences (or eliminating them if they cannot add to your joy of living) is a Living Love key to being joyous and loving all the time. A practical rule of thumb for one starting on the road to higher consciousness is to grant oneself emotion-backed demands for physical necessities such as air, food if starving, or shelter if about to freeze -- and all other addictions are a sickness!
Only your emotional programming determines whether something is an addiction or a preference. You must clearly understand that when we discuss giving up an addiction, we simply mean reprogramming that part of your brain that makes you restless, churning, and unhappy if a desire is not realized. Your living patterns may or may not be changed when you uplevel your addictions to preferences. It is vital that you fully understand that the growth we are describing lies wholly in reprogramming your automatic emotional programming -- it is not necessarily aimed at changing your external actions. You can do anything you prefer as long as you are not addicted. For when you are free of addictions, your actions will be characterized by wisdom and oneness.
Thus it is not the external circumstances that constitute your addiction -- it is only your inside emotional programming that must be changed. And the wonderful thing is that it is fully within your ability to do so -- whereas up to now you have been hopelessly trying to manipulate the outside world to conform to your addictions. You will live in a peaceful world when you eliminate your addictions and then spend your time making choices on a preference basis.
I am discovering how my consciousness-dominating addictions create my illusory version of the changing world of people and situations around me.
We see things not as they are, but as we are. Every addiction distorts your effective processing (on both conscious and unconscious levels) of the enormous flow of information that is continually flooding in through all of your sensory inputs. Every second your biocomputer is receiving millions of electrochemical impulses from your sight, sound, touch, taste, and olfactory receptors, and the tissues and organs within your body. For example, each hair on your body is connected by a nerve to your brain. All of your internal organs are continually sending signals to your biocomputer, most of which are fortunately handled on an unconscious level.
We see things not as they are -- but as we are. Every addiction distorts your effective processing (on both conscious and unconscious levels) of the enormous flow of information that is continually flooding in through all of your sensory inputs. Every second your biocomputer is receiving millions of electrochemical impulses from your sight, sound, touch, taste, and olfactory receptors, and the tissues and organs within your body. For example, each hair on your body is connected by a nerve to your brain. All of your internal organs are continually sending signals to your biocomputer, most of which are fortunately handled on an unconscious level.
The reticular activating system of your biocomputer is a network that selects what goes into your consciousness. It screens the data that it sends to your cerebral center -- your master analyzer. This network can close down your consciousness and put you to sleep. It can turn up your consciousness and awaken you when you are asleep. This neural structure performs the function that is often referred to as the “ego.”
You can consciously pay full attention to only one thing at a time although your consciousness can switch back and forth with lightning rapidity. How does your reticular activating system (or ego) select what to pass on to your consciousness? It selects the information that is to go into your consciousness by following the programming that you have been putting into it since infancy. Thus your programmed addictions determine your experience of the world for they are the guides that your reticular activating system uses to determine which data will be suppressed and which can go into your consciousness and command full attention. In this way, you gradually develop an illusory version of the people and things in your world because of the enormous domination of your consciousness by the things you are programmed to desire and that which you are programmed to fear.
You can consciously pay full attention to only one thing at a time although your consciousness can switch back and forth with lightning rapidity. How does your reticular activating system (or ego) select what to pass on to your consciousness? It selects the information that is to go into your consciousness by following the programming that you have been putting into it since infancy. Thus your programmed addictions determine your experience of the world for they are the guides that your reticular activating system uses to determine which data will be suppressed and which can go into your consciousness and command full attention. In this way, you gradually develop an illusory version of the people and things in your world because of the enormous domination of your consciousness by the things you are programmed to desire and that which you are programmed to fear.
The more you live with your distorted version of the people and things around you, the more certain you will feel that it is the only “true’ picture of the world. Thus you build up a warped picture of yourself and the people and situations in your world. For your mind is such that whatever it believes is true produces a feedback that continually reinforces and molds your perceptions.
You should always be aware that your head creates your world. Your addiction patterns -- your expectations, your desires, your attachments, your demands, your mental models -- dominate your perceptions of the people and things around you. It is only when you become free of your addictive programming that you can perceive how things really interact in your world.
I welcome the opportunity (even if painful) that my minute-to-minute experience offers me, to become aware of the addictions I must reprogram to be liberated from my robot-like emotional patterns.
How do you spot your addictions? It’s easy. You just notice the desires and expectations that you use to make yourself feel uptight in various life situations. By tuning in to your minute-to-minute stream of consciousness, you discover the addictions that make you worried, anxious, resentful, uptight, afraid, angry, bored, etc.
You thus use every uncomfortable emotion as an opportunity for consciousness growth. Even though you may still be feeling emotional and uptight, you begin to get at the roots of your ups and downs -- your brief bits of pleasure and your long periods of unhappiness. And you begin to feel a deep satisfaction as you become more awakened and alive!
In the past, you continuously tried to find people who would minimally disturb your complex security, sensation, and power addictions. However, a person for whom you feel little attraction is probably your most helpful teacher in getting free of some of your addictions. You will grow faster if you work on your addictions by experiencing someone that you usually would have excluded from your life. When you find that you can remain centered no matter what he or she does, you will know that you have reprogrammed the addictions that created the separateness you felt. And although you have continued the relationship for your own growth, you will have offered the other person valuable experiences that he or she can use for his or her rapid growth (for example, the experience of being loved unconditionally). When you have reprogrammed the addictions that separated you in your feelings, you may have developed a love and oneness that holds you together. Or you may prefer to spend this time in another way -- and it may then be more productive of growth for you to follow your preference -- and be with this individual less (or not at all) in the future.
Everyone and everything around you is your teacher. If your washing machine won’t work, you are being checked out on your ability to peacefully accept the unacceptable. If you are addicted to your appliances always working, you will suffer. If you prefer them to operate well, you will not compound your problem by superimposing your uncomfortable emotions on the here and now realities of repairing them.
Your moment-to-moment stream of consciousness becomes interesting and real when you experience everything as a step in your growth toward higher consciousness. You will soon begin to feel peaceful and loving almost all of the time. This is your consciousness telling you that you’re using the Twelve Pathways more skillfully. Just keep going -- you’re well on your way!
Being Here Now
On the interesting aspect of the Twelve Pathways is that if you can follow any one of them completely on the deeper levels, you will be using almost all of them. They are systematically interlocking -- and this makes it easier for you to implement them in action. Pathways Four through Six are particularly helpful in learning to live in the eternal now moment, although all of the Pathways reprogram you to tune in to the nowness of your life.
I always remember that I have everything I need to enjoy my here and now -- unless I am letting my consciousness be dominated by demands and expectations based on the dead past or the imagined future.
If you are not enjoying every here and now moment in your life, it is because your addictions (otherwise known as desires, attachments, demands, expectations, emotional programming, models of how life should treat you) are making you dwell in the dead past or the imagined future. They are keeping you from being here now. All there is in your life is the eternal now moment -- and your experience of this moment is created by the programming in your head.
Most people keep themselves on lower consciousness levels by endless chatting about what they did in the past or what they plan in the future. It is best not to hang out discussing the past or to let your consciousness dwell on the past, for the constant churning of your mind (and the torrent of words that issues from it) keeps you from fully experiencing the now moment in your life.
Nor will you generate the best future for yourself by being constantly preoccupied with thoughts of the future. If there is something you need to do right here now -- then get busy and do it. If you’ve done whatever you feel you need to do at this time, then there is no need to have your consciousness filled with thoughts of the future.
You can only be here now when you instantly accept emotionally whatever happens in your life. If you wish to change something -- fine. Do it. And you can make really effective changes when your consciousness is free of emotional turmoil. You will now be more perceptive and powerful because you are able to use the full resources of your great biocomputer to flow in any direction you prefer.
For example, if a tire on your car blows out, you can get mad at the tire, angry at the people who sold it to you, resentful at the extra expenditure now necessary -- or you can keep your addictions from destroying your peace and serenity. After all, the blown tire is part of the here and nowness of your life. You can only make the situation unpleasant by getting uptight. Don’t be addicted to your tires not blowing -- uplevel to a very natural preference that your tires stay inflated and serve you longer. When a tire blows, you simply accept the unacceptable. You realize that this is a here and now a reality in your life. Although you have lost the tire, you do not have to lose your peace and serenity -- or send out vibrations that jostle the addiction patterns of people around you and cause them tension and anxiety.
Serenity is the end -- and serenity is also the means -- by which you live effectively. By fully tuning in to the now moment in your life, you will discover that you always have enough to enjoy every moment of your life. The only reason you have not been happy every instant is that you have been dominating your consciousness with thoughts about something you don’t have -- or trying to hold on to something that you do have but which is no longer appropriate in the present flow of your life. Here and now (not pasting and futuring) is the key to the optimal interaction pattern between you and the people and things in the world around you.
There is a saying, “A coward dies a thousand deaths; a brave man only one.” For all of us, death is a part of our future. But we do not have to become what the existentialists refer to as the “living dead.”
We can always find things we can magnify to threaten our security, sensation, and power addictions. Or we can consciously perform whatever action is needed and then turn our attention to enjoying everything we have to enjoy. And we always have enough to be happy if we are enjoying what we do have -- and not worrying about what we don’t have.
I take full responsibility here and now for everything I experience, for it is my own programming that creates my actions and also influences the reactions of people around me.
Whenever you are unhappy, your emotions are telling you that people and things are not fulfilling the addiction patterns you have programmed into your biocomputer. But you usually do not talk to yourself in this realistic way. Instead, you blame your unhappiness on somebody or something outside of you. You say things like, “Mary makes me jealous,” or, “Bill makes me mad.” But what is really happening is that someone is doing things that do not conform with the patterns of your addictions -- and your addictions are making you unhappy. When you take full responsibility here and now for all of your feelings and for everything that happens to you, you never again blame the people and situations in the world outside of you for any unhappyfeelings that you have. You realize that it is an evasion to blame “others.” You’ve been doing it to yourself!
You can stop being a mechanical, computer-like person who views himself as “pushed around” by the world when you realize that only you can “push” yourself. You begin to see the connection between your emotional programming and your suffering. You start doing something about it -- which means reprogramming yourself.
Your mind creates your universe. Your expectations, demands, hopes, fears, addictions, motivations, past experience, your language system, your individual accumulation of ideas, theories, and intellectual stuff, your emotions, the structure and functioning of your nervous system and the feedback from your entire body all interact in a complex way to produce your perceptions -- the “picture” you create from the energies you receive through your various senses from people and things around you. Your perceptions are thus a joint phenomenon of the observer and the observed.
You receive a feedback from the people and things around you that continually modifies your processing of incoming sensory data. For example, a loving person lives in a loving world. As loving individuals flow through their moment-to-moment lives, their gentle, accepting consciousness is mirrored by the people around them. As the Proverbs remind us, “A soft answer turneth away wrath.”
Similarly, a hostile person lives in a hostile world. If you go about with rockness inside you, if you view others as competitive to you, if you have a thin surface politeness with instant anger, ridicule, and antagonism when things don’t go your way, you will create people around you that have exactly those characteristics. In other words, your actions create the reactions of people around you -- except when you are with people living in the Fourth (or higher) Center of Consciousness. Conscious beings remain loving and centered no matter how tense the drama around them.
The world thus tends to be your mirror. A peaceful person lives in a peaceful world. An angry person creates an angry world. A helpful person generates helpful, loving energy in others. An unfriendly person should not be surprised when he or she meets only people who sooner or later respond in an unfriendly way. A happy person finds the world filled with happy people -- for even unhappy people experience temporary happiness and joy when they are with a genuinely happy and joyous person!
Sometimes people mirror you but with a reverse image. When you are addicted to one side of a polarity, you can create the opposite polarity around you. For example, if you are compulsively and addictively neat and orderly, others around you will tend to be more sloppy than usual. If, on the other hand, you are addictively sloppy, you can create neatness responses around you. The polarity of your programming may evoke an opposite ego response in the people with whom you interact.
As you grow in consciousness, you begin to realize the hundreds of ways in which you create the consciousness of everyone around you. And, of course, they reciprocally play a part in determining the contents of your moment-to- moment consciousness. This feedback of consciousness offers exquisite cosmic humor when you clearly see what is really happening.
As you understand your polarities and free yourself, you begin to tune in to everyone in their deeper levels of being -- where we are alike and experience oneness together. When you free yourself of your addictions, you help to free others of their addictions.
Your predictions and expectations are thus self-fulfilling. Since your consciousness creates your universe, all you have to do to change your world is to change your consciousness! It’s the only way to live in a beautiful, joyous world. As you learn to use the Twelve Pathways to become a more loving, conscious being, you will find yourself living in an Ocean of loving, conscious beings. Without trying to change others, you will be acting in a way that is maximally effective in helping others become more loving and conscious.
I accept myself completely here and now and consciously experience everything I feel, think, say, and do (including my emotion-backed addictions) as a necessary part of my growth into higher consciousness.
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness is based on the instant emotional acceptance here and now of that which you previously regarded as unacceptable in your life. Acceptance simply means that you won’t cause yourself emotional conflict because of your current perceptions. Emotional acceptance doesn’t mean that you have to continue living the rest of your life with any particular person or situation. You are free to do anything you prefer to do -- but don’t be addicted to the results of your actions. If someone does something that “hurts your ego,” you will grow fastest if you consciously regard him or her as your teacher who is enabling you to discover which addictions you will have to reprogram.
You really savor living when you consciously experience everything that you feel and do as taking place in the theater that we call our world. You see yourself and others as actors in the daily drama of life. But the real you is not your body or mind. You’re not the actor. The real you is your Conscious- awareness. And your Conscious-awareness is just digging the whole show from the audience. Shakespeare wrote:
"All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women, merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances,
And one man in his time plays many parts."
When you watch the entire drama of your life and that of other people from the safe vantage point of the audience, you begin to provide a distance that enables you to see your addictions more clearly. You will find it easier to completely accept the addictive dramas that you have to play out on the stage of your life. You will find a turned-on joy in consciously experiencing everything as a necessary part of your growth into higher consciousness.
To grow in the Living Love Way, you do not have to drill yourself and criticize yourself with military precision. Just experience everything in an accepting, relaxed, and conscious way -- and realize that every one of your experiences is perfect for your here and now growth into higher consciousness. Your addictions will gradually fade away when you use the Living Love Pathways to consciously interpret your moment-to-moment stream of consciousness. Don’t push the river -- just experience the river consciously from the vantage point of the Twelve Pathways.
Interacting With Others
Flowing -- not manipulation -- is the way of higher consciousness. Flowing means moving with the forces around us -- being in tune with the vibrations of the people and things in our environment. Flowing enables us to find the love, beauty, and peace that we are missing in our lives. But flowing is impossible based on the models of how to be happy that we learned in our childhood, for we cannot flow or harmonize when we are the slaves of our addictions. Our addictions force us to manipulate ourselves -- and others. As adults whose minds and bodies have completed their structural growth, we have the potential of flowing in the river of our lives in a beautiful, loving way.
I open myself genuinely to all people by being willing to fully communicate my deepest feelings, since hiding in any degree keeps me stuck in my illusion of separateness from other people.
As you begin to uplevel all of your addictions to the status of preferences (or eliminate them entirely), you will discover that you no longer have anything to hide from other people. It then feels good to be able to communicate with each person exactly what you are experiencing. As you grow into higher consciousness through eliminating your addictions, you will be able to drop all deceptive, subject-object manipulation in the games you have been playing -- the money game, the security game, the male-female game, the prestige game, the power game, the knowledge game, the expert game, etc. These can be beautiful games to play when you play them consciously and lovingly, but they generate suffering and unhappiness when you play them addictively.
When you are not completely open and truthful to all people -- when you are trying to hide a part of your inner feelings -- you continue the illusion of separateness from others. Hasn’t everyone been caught up in the addictions for security, sensation, and power? Are you under the illusion that you have desires and feelings that are so horrible that others will be shocked? Or are we really all one? Deep inside, all of us have experienced this self-imposed suffering and isolation that keeps us from being peaceful and loving -- even though we may not have perceived it as self-imposed. We have all been in similar predicaments at one time or another in our lives.
One of the ways out of this wall of isolation is to communicate, “Well, here I am. This is what my addictions are making me feel here and now. I accept myself (including my addictions) as being on an unfolding journey toward a peaceful, loving state of higher consciousness.” When you’re around someone who is experiencing fairly continuous states of higher consciousness, you can be sure that he or she will conditionally accept you exactly where you are now -- for he or she has traveled over the same road and prefers to help you. You can grow fastest and enjoy the trip most (even though your remaining addictions make it a bit rocky sometimes) if you can relax and just communicate fully.
When you’re around someone who is experiencing fairly continuous states of higher consciousness, you can be sure that he or she will conditionally accept you exactly where you are now -- for he or she has traveled over the same road and prefers to help you. You can grow fastest and enjoy the trip most (even though your remaining addictions make it a bit rocky sometimes) if you can relax and just communicate fully.
It feels so good to be able to just open up and let people see all of you. You’ll be amazed at how quickly they can then cut through their drama and accept you without the phony masks and roles with which you previously identified. You have every right to feel exactly as you feel. If “others” are bothered, that’s their problem. You’re their teacher giving them experiences they need to reprogram their addictions -- just as they are your teacher enabling you to find your addictions.
When you consistently use the Pathways, you do not have to scream, viciously attack, or otherwise unduly threaten another person in order to communicate your deepest feelings. You don’t need to lay judgments on people or prove them wrong. You just talk about your own consciousness. Instead of, “You are horrible and I don’t want to ever see you again,” you can say, “You’ve put me in touch with one of my addictions, and right now I feel so angry at you I don’t want to be with you.” When you just talk about your own consciousness, you give both yourself and the other person a better chance to work through the addictive programming that produces the illusion of separateness.
The Ninth Pathway suggests that you give yourself a short period of time to work through the emotion caused by your addiction. But if you are at the beginning of your consciousness growth, you may find it more important to communicate quickly so that your relationships are always “up front.” Remember, hiding separates; openness unites.
As you grow into higher consciousness, you will become aware of the many ways in which you have been involved in complex role playing, with hidden “shoulds” and “shouldn’ts” that create complicated patterns of demanding and expectation. You can work effectively toward the “us” space when you genuinely and openly communicate your feelings and reveal the security, sensation, and power dance that you have been doing. You will find that you can usually cut through these ensnaring dramas by expressing your preferences clearly to yourself and others. You will realize that open communication of your innermost feelings helps your ego (and the egos of other people) to get free of addictive programming which in the long run only produces unhappiness and alienation.
I feel with loving compassion the problems of others without getting caught up emotionally in their predicaments that are offering them messages they need for their growth.
All your emotional problems are created by your addictions. Your growth into higher consciousness consists of becoming free of these traps. When you interact with people who are still involved in this automatic computer-like emotional programming, it is important that you learn to feel their problems with loving compassion, but without getting caught up emotionally in their predicaments. Compassionate understanding -- yes; pity and commiseration -- no.
Compassion means that when you empathize with the predicaments of other people, you silently send out the vibration, “Yes, I know. I’ve been there too. It’s OK to feel the way you do -- however, try to see that it’s all drama. Life always has its ‘tigers’ -- and we do what we can about them. But above all, let’s be sure to continuously enjoy the ‘strawberries.’ There are always enough strawberries to enjoy our here and now if we don’t put all of our attention on the tigers!”
Compassion means that you understand the duality and separation they are creating in themselves by rejecting what is here and now in their lives -- but you do not get caught up in their poignant drama. Compassion means that you realize that you can do the most for other people when you stay centered and high and loving whenever you are around them for they are playing out their addictions, suffering because of them, and hopefully picking up the messages life is offering them. Compassion means that you love and serve them from a clear love space, and not from a compulsiveness or guilt motivated by your remaining security, sensation, or power addictions.
You learn not to give gifts that you cannot emotionally afford to give. When you resent helping someone, this creates obligations, duality, and separation. You cannot psychologically afford to give such help, and the recipient cannot afford to receive it. The price in personal distance and separation is too high if you give to avoid a feeling of “guilt” or from a “should” or “ought” motivation.
When you help someone because of a feeling of obligation or duty rather than free-flowing love, you may find yourself resenting the person for needing your help. These negative feelings can prevent you from being sensitive to his or her real here-and-now needs, and doing or saying what would really be helpful. Very often just being in a loving space with a person as you listen to him or her is more helpful than any advice you could give.
When you can “help” someone with a feeling of love and oneness -- you just do it because it feels good to you. When you feel oneness with another, there is no giver or receiver -- there’s just us here. It’s like one hand washing another. You are just letting energy flow through you.
When you are with someone who is trapped in the suffering caused by addictions, you use this as an opportunity to work on your consciousness. The greatest thing you can do for “others” is to remain happy and loving when you are with them. You do not get caught up as a supporting actor no matter how tragic the role they are playing in the drama of their life. It’s their thing to play this role. They probably chose this role (either consciously or unconsciously) and are clinging to it. The best way to give them a chance to free themselves from their addictive trap is for you to avoid getting caught up emotionally in the “stuff” that they are taking so seriously. They are not that “stuff” with which they are identifying. Behind all that, here we are.
As the Law of Higher Consciousness suggests, the game is to “Love Everyone Unconditionally -- Including Yourself.” As you begin to increase the number of people for whom you feel unconditional love, you will be aware of the many security, sensation, and power dramas that each of them is busily playing out. You realize that you cannot, in practice, have enough time and energy to love everyone you meet if you have a “bleeding heart” response to the heap of problems people are creating in their lives.
Your life works best when you love, serve, and flow your loving energy -- not from a lower consciousness motivation of “I am helping you,” or “I will save you,” but simply from the awareness that “the universe gave this energy to me and it feels good to pass it along.” As you become more conscious, your energy will increase. And also, as you become more conscious, less of it will be drained by your own security, sensation, and power addictions. You will then liberate a continuous stream of energy which will flow into loving and serving people around you.
I act freely when I am tuned in, centered, and loving, but if possible I avoid acting when I am emotionally upset and depriving myself of the wisdom that flows from love and expanded consciousness.
When you are emotionally upset, you energize the addictive patterns of other people who are also caught in the lower levels of consciousness. They will mirror your uptightness, and will not be tuned in, perceptive, and able to fully understand what you are trying to tell them. They will reflect your inner conflicts, for you will trigger their addictions -- and this will interfere with effective communication. The things you do or say when you have stirred up your emotions and the emotions of other people will be handled in a way that is destructive of peace, love, and oneness. You may be able to pull a power trip to make something happen -- but it will not feel right to all concerned. And the future consequences of your actions will cause greater future conflicts.
Bad vibrations, like the measles, are contagious. Every time you interact with anger, resentment, or fear, you add a little reinforcement to the addictions from which we wish to be liberated. You know the story of the man who bawled out his friend, and the friend went home and fought with his wife, who spanked her child, who then kicked the cat.
Now let’s turn it around -- for good vibrations are also catching. Let’s be the man who complimented his friend, and the friend went home and kissed his wife, who was so extra loving to her child that he gave the cat some milk without even being asked!
To avoid adding to the total sum of the bad vibrations in the world, unless you are in physical danger, wait until you are tuned in, centered, and loving before you act. Then your perception and wisdom may lead you to choose a more effective course of action. But even if you do the same thing that you originally intended to do, it now has a better chance of success because the consciousness level of everyone concerned is elevated. Instead of acting out a drama of addictions, you are, here and now, communicating as a tuned-in human being telling what you feel and what you prefer.
The Seventh Pathway and the Ninth Pathway put you in an interesting predicament. The Seventh Pathway tells you to communicate your deepest feelings, and the Ninth Pathway says for you to withhold your communication, if possible, until you are perceptive, centered, and loving. What this means is that you are always ready to be completely open and to communicate with people, but if you are caught in the grip of a disturbing emotion, you give yourself a little time to work on your addiction -- rather than acting out the fight-or-flight feeling you have triggered.
A part of your growth into higher consciousness will be associated with how perceptively you handle these two Pathways. You can use the Ninth Pathway to hide -- or you can use it to delay your responses to people long enough to give the other Pathways an opportunity to rescue you from the negative emotions you have triggered. Always remember that you cannot put off for long your making an up-front communication of your deepest feelings if you wish to be conscious, perceptive, and loving. Unexpressed feelings act like a cancer in your brain that malignantly spreads -- warping your perceptions and bringing you alienation and suffering. You thus learn to use the Seventh and Ninth Pathways to create more and more aliveness and beauty in all of your relationships with other people.
Discovering My Conscious Awareness
The Twelve Pathways give you a complete solution to every emotional problem in your life. Whenever you experience uncomfortable emotional waves, you will find that the Pathways are always ready to steer you around the rocks into the peaceful waters.
The Twelve Pathways give you a complete solution to every emotional problem in your life. Whenever you experience uncomfortable emotional waves, you will find that the Pathways are always ready to steer you around the rocks into the peaceful waters.
I am continually calming the restless scanning of my rational mind in order to perceive the finer energies that enable me to unitively merge with everything around me.
When our wonderful biocomputers are dominated by our addictions, our consciousness is scattered and harried. Our consciousness is then like a television set that drifts from the channel, that turns off when we want to use it, that sometimes won’t stay turned off when we wish to sleep, that is subject to fading, and that will tune in only the lower channels. We would not tolerate this type of performance from a television set, but unfortunately most of us are so accustomed to the poor performance of our minds that we often accept such inefficiency as “normal.”
What is meant when the Tenth Pathway tells you to calm the restless scanning of your rational mind? As you grow in awareness, you will begin to realize that the activity of your rational mind is generally sparked by your security, sensation, and power motivations. You are trying to hold onto something you do have, get something you don’t have, or avoid something you don’t want. You discover how your rational mind has become a pawn commanded by your ego to “rationalize” your security, sensation, and power demands and expectations. You begin to see that many of the “clever” things your rational mind devises to say to other people just turn out to be separating and alienating responses that keep you out of the “us” space.
As you lessen the heavy load of addictions you have been carrying, your rational mind becomes quieter and quieter, and you begin to increase your insight and perceptiveness. You begin to have a choice that was not available before regarding the things that you say and do. You begin to tune in to the finer energies around you when the precious space on the screen of your consciousness is not occupied by the emergency alarms triggered by your addictive security, sensation, and power models of how the world should be.
The Living Love Way enables you to live in this powerful realm of higher consciousness by setting you free from your addictions, goals, and expectations that you have unknowingly programmed as essential to your happiness. For the structure and function of your biocomputer are such that this addictive programming triggers your thoughts, ideas, and words in a persistent and dominating way.
The cultivation of preferences (in place of addictions) does not keep your rational mind churning and scanning -- for preferences are not sought after goals that keep you restless. With preferences, you simply flow along in the nowness of your daily life. Whenever the here and now offers you a choice, you pick the one that most fits in with your preferences. But either way -- everything feels all right. Your rational mind is not excited into restless, striving activity. Preferences let you stay in touch with the here and now in your life. They enable your mind to become calmer and calmer -- until it functions as a powerful, quiet, one-pointed, peaceful, effective servant to your consciousness.
Thus the Living Love System enables you to transcend tensions, anxiety, and conflict into a flowing acceptance of all of life. Your escape from lower consciousness levels helps to free you from the restless scanning of your rational mind so that you are constantly in touch with that deep, calm place inside of you from which you peacefully, lovingly, and blissfully watch the drama of your life.
I am constantly aware of which of the Seven Centers of Consciousness I am using, and I feel my energy, perceptiveness, love, and inner peace growing as I open all of the Centers of Consciousness.
The Seven Centers of Consciousness (explained later in this book) consist of a seven-step scale that can tell you each moment of your life exactly where you are in your journey toward higher consciousness. By using the seven- step consciousness scale, you clarify your minute-to-minute drama and add realism and depth to your life. You discover that your energy, love, insight, and inner peace will fluctuate up and down when your consciousness is involved in the lower three Centers. As you learn to uplevel your consciousness, you unlock enormous energy. You enjoy being able to unconditionally love and accept everyone. By letting yourself grow toward the higher Centers of Consciousness, you find the beautiful inner peace that you have always sought in your life.
In Living Love we work to integrate all of the Centers. Everything in your life has aspects on all of the Centers. You begin your growth toward higher consciousness when you first escape from being preoccupied with the lower three Centers of Security, Sensation, and Power -- and uplevel your consciousness to include the unconditional Love Center and Cornucopia Center. Then you begin to watch your drama from the Conscious-awareness Center. By seeing your drama from this meta-center you impartially witness all your thoughts and actions on the five lower Centers. In the next phase of consciousness growth, one goes behind this Conscious-awareness Center into the Seventh Center -- Cosmic Consciousness -- that peaceful place where one has eliminated personal boundaries and has unitively merged with the surrounding world.
I am perceiving everyone, including myself, as an awakening being who is here to claim his or her birthright to the higher consciousness planes of unconditional love and oneness.
Everyone you meet, including yourself, has the capacity for clear perception, wisdom, effectiveness, peace, and love. We are equal beings. But unless one has consciously worked toward higher consciousness, this hidden splendor within may be smothered by the addictive games that keep one separated and isolated. It will help us in our journey to higher consciousness (as well as being most helpful to others) if we regard everyone, including ourselves, as fellow travellers on the road to awakening.
We begin to realize that everything we do is either a skillful or unskillful attempt to find love and oneness. Even if someone yells at you or hits you, he is trying to manipulate you so that you can fit the pattern of his addictions -- and thus permit him to love you in his conditional way. When your ego permits you to see the here-and-now actions of people with perspective, you realize that there is practically nothing that anyone can do that you have not either done or wanted to do at some time in your life. We’re just not that different from each other. Our egos and our rational minds keep us continually judging other people so as to put them in the wrong and thus give us a supposed advantage. A conscious being simply sees, with a compassion that is born of insight and perspective, that everyone is on the road to
awakening. We learn to love others by accepting and loving ourselves -- and vice versa.
You realize that in place of the judgmental terms (such as good and bad) that we use to separate ourselves in our consciousness from each other, the simplest and most helpful ethical standard is to see things as degrees of separateness and oneness. You view the thoughts and actions that separate you on the lower part of the ethical scale. The thoughts and actions which unite you are on the upper part of the scale. Instead of labeling things “good” or “bad,” you simply use your insight to determine to what extent your thoughts or actions separate or unite you in your feelings toward others. That which makes you feel separate tends to keep your life from working effectively, and that which enables YOU to experience love and unity permits you to harmonize your energy with the energies of the world around you. Whenever you are in doubt about whether to do something or not, just ask yourself whether it makes you feel more separate from people or more loving toward people.
When you see how it all is -- when you see everything that happens in your life as a moment-to-moment acting out of the great drama of your addictions -- you will realize how you constantly smother the potential that you have within you. Higher consciousness means that you experience a flowing harmony with all of the interacting people and things in the world around you. This permits you to emotionally accept whatever is here and now in your life. Higher consciousness is not a mystical, metaphysical, far-out state. It is a practical, beautiful state of mind which is your birthright as a human being.
The Seven Centers of Consciousness
In the Living Love System, we use a seven-step scale that will enable you to measure your pattern of growth toward higher consciousness. This scale consists of three lower Centers of Consciousness -- Security, Sensation, and Power -- and four higher Centers of Consciousness -- Love, Cornucopia, Conscious-awareness, and Cosmic Consciousness.
These Centers act as filters that generate your particular private experience of the here and now in your life. Information coming into your biocomputer -- from your eyes, ears, and other sensory receptors, plus the memory banks of the brain and the thoughts generated by the rational mind -- are processed through these programmings. These programmings determine your own unique experience of the here and now. The emotional areas of the brain trigger various feelings as called for by your addictive programming. This in turn feeds back and intensifies your particular flow of energy and thought patterns.
The lower three Centers of Consciousness were developed for survival in the jungle phase of the evolution of our species. In general, the automated priority of awareness in an animal is to first check incoming information for its security aspects, then its sensation (food or sex) possibilities, then its threats to the power boundaries with which the animal identifies. For example, a cat may be operating on the sensation level enjoying a meal when an unexpected noise may instantly activate a security consciousness that prepares the animal for fight or flight. All this is done on an automated basis without conscious thought.
In spite of the fact that the potential for higher consciousness is available to us as we leave childhood, we often remain trapped in these automated responses of security, sensation, and power consciousness. For example, when we use our security programming, we automatically trigger the experience of fear. If we don’t get the sensations we desire, we automatically trigger a frustrating disappointed feeling. And if our power, pride, or prestige boundaries are violated -- like automatons -- we instantly trigger the experience of anger, hostility, irritation, hate, etc. We often combine two or more of these filters simultaneously to create our individual picture of the now moment.
One of the benefits of the seven-step consciousness scale is to enable you to see your drama from a perspective so that you can choose the filters you wish to use in generating your experience. This conscious choice of programs is not available to a young child or an animal. Young children and animals are trapped in their automatic programming. To see your drama clearly is to be liberated from it, so that you do not have to compulsively act out the subject- object scripts of your jungle ancestors.
A beautiful aspect of the consciousness scale is that each time you go up a step in the scale, your life gives you:
1. More energy.
2. More contact with people.
3. More enjoyment.
An important characteristic of the three lower Centers is that you can never get enough to enjoy your life continuously when you are using the security, sensation, and power filters to interpret the here and now in your life. You can use these filters to make limited improvements in your life. But out of the billions of people who have lived on earth, no one has experienced enough security, enough delightful sensations, and enough power to be continuously happy and fulfilled. The experience of enoughness only starts as you begin to generate your consciousness more and more from the Fourth Center -- the Love Center.
The reason why the lower Centers cannot bring you enough is that they cause constant distortions in perceiving people and life situations. These Centers keep you from loving unconditionally and make you relate to people as objects instead of as beings just like you. They make you waste energy compulsively running toward or away from situations. These lower Centers subject you to simultaneous, multiple addictions that conflict with each other and require the biocomputer to do something about the heavy emotional overload. When overloaded with conflicting addictive demands that are not being satisfied, the experience of the here and now is grayed over with repression, anxiety, depression, and dullness. These emotions are used by your biocomputer to slow you down and keep you from tearing yourself apart with conflicting demands, desires, and expectations generated by your security, sensation, and power consciousness.
It should be remembered that life in a jungle frequently poses the threat of instant death to its animal inhabitants. We have a beautiful white cat that purrs and is most loving to the people in our house. When this cat goes out into the yard, however, it will crouch down, stalk, and kill birds if it can. The automated response patterns of any nearby birds must be able to handle the life or death aggressiveness of the cat when it plays out its jungle programming.
We have nervous systems that were evolved over millions of years to cope with this immediate threat to life. It has probably been quite a long time since you or I were actually threatened with immediate death. But these mechanisms of fight or flight that were so protective in the jungle are still operating in our biocomputers. They may be helpful if you were in a boat that overturned and you had to swim one mile to a nearby island. This threat to your life, when processed by your lower three Centers of Consciousness, would bring about autonomic nervous system responses that would enable you to swim in a way that you’ve never been able to swim before. But in over 99% of your normal daily interactions with people and life situations around you, these fear, disappointment, and anger emotions are not helpful in enabling you to get the most enjoyment and effectiveness from your life. For example if someone criticizes you, your angry response will tend to bring you additional criticism -- “stuff” you might avoid if you could just consciously hear the criticism and perhaps ignore it, if inappropriate, or use it if it fits.
The Seven Centers of Consciousness should be used as growth tools -- and not as another way to criticize yourself or to generate an experience of inadequacy or inferiority. You do not need to fiercely attack yourself because you caught yourself on level three when you decided to spend the day on level four. No part of the Living Love System should be used addictively to create expectations that make you drive yourself, berate yourself, complain about yourself -- or anyone else.
The Living Love Way works best if you simply stay with it and notice in a quiet, accepting, meditative way where you are from moment to moment. And remember, where you are is perfect for your consciousness growth -- you shouldn’t be anywhere else -- here and now. You simply notice what is happening in your moment-to-moment stream of consciousness as seen from the vantage point of the Living Love Way. And each time you use one of the Living Love Methods, you will find that you are becoming more peaceful and loving in a situation that previously would have resulted in your emotionally thrashing around and upsetting yourself and others.
On the next page you will find a summary of the Seven Centers of Consciousness. It will help you if you will learn the seven-point scale so thoroughly that you will feel (without necessarily analyzing it) which Center of Consciousness your biocomputer is operating on at each moment. In the next three chapters you will find detailed descriptions of each Center of Consciousness.
The Seven Centers of Consciousness
1. The Security Center
This Center makes you preoccupied with food, shelter, or whatever you equate with your personal security. This programming forces your consciousness to be dominated by your continuous battle to get “enough” from the world in order to feel secure.
2. The Sensation Center
This Center is concerned with finding happiness in life by providing yourself with more and better pleasurable sensations and activities. For many people, sex is the most appealing of all sensations. Other addictive sensations may include the sound of music, the taste of food, etc.
3. The Power Center
When your consciousness is focused on this Center, you are concerned with dominating people and situations and increasing your prestige, wealth, and pride -- in addition to thousands of more subtle forms of hierarchy, manipulation, and control.
4. The Love Center
At this Center you are transcending subject-object relationships and are learning to see the world with the feelings and harmonies of flowing acceptance. You see yourself in everyone -- and everyone in yourself. You feel compassion for the suffering of those caught in the dramas of security, sensation, and power. You are beginning to love and accept everyone unconditionally -- even yourself.
5. The Cornucopiacenter
When your consciousness is illuminated by this Center, you experience the friendliness of the world you are creating. You begin to realize that you’ve always lived in a perfect world. To the degree that you still have addictions, the perfection lies in giving you the experience you need to get free of your emotion-backed demands. As you reprogram your addictions, the perfection will be experienced as a continuous enjoyment of the here and now in your life. As you become more loving and accepting, the world becomes a “horn of plenty” that gives you more than you need to be happy.
6. The Conscious-Awareness Center
It is liberating to have a Center from which your Conscious-awareness watches your body and mind perform on the lower five centers. This is a meta-center from which you non-judgmentally witness the drama of your body and mind. From this Center of Centers, you learn to impartially observe your social roles and life games from a place that is free from fear and vulnerability.
7. The Cosmic Consciousness Center
When you live fully in the Sixth Center of Consciousness, you are ready to transcend self-awareness and become pure awareness. At this ultimate level, you are one with everything -- you are love, peace, energy, beauty, wisdom, clarity, effectiveness, and oneness.
The Three Centers of Unhappiness
There is nothing about any level of consciousness that is right or wrong, good or bad, pure or evil. You should feel free to let your consciousness touch on any of the seven levels. You are where you are -- here and now. Your growth in Living Love will depend on completely accepting yourself and others -- right here now -- and not in some future time when you have conquered your addictions.
Just accept where you are now by realizing that you are experiencing addictions that give you the feelings you need for your next step in growth. By joyously using your here and now as a stepping stone, your growth will be happening in the fastest possible way.
Here is the Living Love scale you can use to develop a moment-by-moment feeling of where you are in your great adventure into higher consciousness:
The First Center of Consciousness - The Security Center
What is it that makes you feel secure? What is it that makes you feel insecure? Your answer to these questions is probably misleading to you, for your feelings of security are created by your emotional programming -- what you are telling yourself inside. The outside conditions of your life do not make you feel either secure or insecure. They only trigger your inside programming. One person may feel secure with practically no money at all. Another may feel insecure with a million dollars in the bank.
The Security Center automatically triggers feelings of fear and anxiety when the outside world does not conform to your security programming. Observe how much of your time is involved in an unpleasant striving to achieve the conditions that you tell yourself you must have to feel secure. The Security Center of Consciousness is very demanding and strongly pulls your consciousness away from the higher Centers.
You will escape being trapped in this first level of consciousness when you begin to understand that your feelings of security or insecurity are due to your emotional programming which you picked up from addicted people before you were mentally and physically mature. You will also notice the impossibility of getting enough of whatever it is that you equate with security. You may be like the rat who is running as fast as he can in a revolving cartwheel cage. There is no way to get there by running faster -- or by achieving more efficiently.
Paradoxically, you would probably be safer if you never again experienced fear in your life -- unless you were actually trapped in a jungle situation faced with the need for immediate fight or flight on a physical level. You will be far safer when consciousness replaces the emotional response of fear. For example, if you wish to cross a busy street, you increase the probability of being hurt if you are afraid of being hit by speeding automobiles. You will be safest if you are simply conscious of the automobiles running back and forth and calmly wait on the curb until there is a break in the traffic. When you perceive this break, without the slightest experience of fear, paranoia, or danger, you calmly and peacefully walk across the street. If you were totally unconscious of what happens when an automobile hits you (as a small child is), fear would be helpful to make you more aware of the overall situation. But once you are old enough to be conscious of the various factors involved in a life situation, a fear response makes you more jumpy and less perceptive, it uses up your energy by making you tense, and it keeps you from enjoying your here and now.
You transcend the security level by developing a deeper and deeper understanding of how your hunger for “security” is all a matter of your emotional programming. It is a trip that you are doing on your own head. Your feelings of insecurity are not a necessary consequence of people, things, and circumstances around you. You will begin to realize that your life right now is what it is. And if you eliminate your addictive models of how things should be, you always have enough to feel good right here and right now.
If you prefer to make changes in your life, you can make them far more effectively when you transcend the addictive programming that makes you feel insecure. When your consciousness begins to operate more and more in the Love Center and Cornucopia Center, your higher consciousness will enable you to flow into situations that offer you far more real security than your lower-consciousness struggle for “security” will ever provide. For real security lies only in the love and flowing that you will discover through higher consciousness. It can never be found in manipulating the world of people and things around you.
The Second Center of Consciousness - The Sensation Center
A person who is hung up on the Security Center of Consciousness tells himself, “I can be happy if I can just feel secure.” However, once he begins to feel more secure, he finds that this is not quite true. He then feels that if he can arrange the people and things in his life to provide a constantly varied pattern of beautiful sensations, he will be happy.
If you are like many people, sex may be your most sought-after sensation. Your life style may be designed to provide you with sexual sensations. The people you choose to be with, the clothes you buy, the home you live in, and the style of speech, thinking, and action that you have developed will tend to be determined by whatever you calculate will make you appeal to the sexual partners you most desire. This is known as subject-object sex in which you are the subject and treat “others” in your life as sexual objects.
There is nothing wrong with doing this except that you are operating on a level of consciousness that cannot provide happiness. For sex is never enough. You are tuning in to only a small part of yourself -- and even a smaller part of others. They are not responding to you as a whole person and you are not responding to them as a whole person. Behind the exquisite sexual dance, both of you really feel the shallowness of the subject-object relationship. You know something is wrong, even though you don’t know exactly what it is. Because no matter how many terrific sexual orgasms you may have, they are never enough. Even if you could reach sexual climaxes a dozen times a day, life would still seem hollow. For this second level of consciousness can only produce flashes of pleasure and long periods of indifference and boredom.
Sensations, however “groovy,” can never make you happy if you are depending on them for happiness. You become driven, thwarted, sometimes satiated, and not tuned in to the flow of the here and now when you are chasing sensation after sensation. But the same sensations can be totally enjoyed when your consciousness is no longer stuck on the second level. When your consciousness is primarily tuned to the Love Center or the Cornucopia Center, sensations can add to your happiness as a part of the here-and-now flow of your life.
Although sex is the sensation that many people are most heavily addicted to, it is by no means our only addiction on the Second Level. We tell ourselves that we can find happiness through the taste of food, the sounds of music, the experience of a special environment that we regard as our impressive home, the sensations of movies and plays, etc. The search for happiness through sensations keeps us ingeniously busy -- but nothing is ever enough -- until you are enough. When you are enough through higher consciousness, everything can be enjoyed as part of the great drama of your life. Until then, nothing ever quite does it for you, and the enjoyment you seek will tend to elude you as long as you addictively demand it. When you uplevel addictions into preferences, you enjoy it all.
When your consciousness is primarily directed toward providing you with the sensation patterns to which you are addicted, you will have more energy than when it was hung up on the Security Center of Consciousness. You will usually be with more people and you will need to sleep less. An individual who is hunting for sex is definitely generating more energy than a person who is worried about his security. In fact, one who is heavily addicted to the security level will probably have dropped off to sleep during the early part of the evening. Thus the search for happiness through sensations is definitely an improvement over the search for happiness on the Security Center of Consciousness. But wisdom, peace, and serenity are not yet in sight.
The Third Center of Consciousness - The Power Center
The last of the lower Centers of Consciousness (that can never provide you with “enough”) is the Power Center. Most of the people in the world are addicted to these three lower Centers -- the Security Center, the Sensation Center, and the Power Center. The attempt to find happiness through the Power Center is definitely a forward step in growth toward higher consciousness. When you are operating from the Power Center, you will have more energy and you will interact with more people. But these will still be subject-object interactions in which people either cooperate with your power games or threaten them. In this Center, life is a series of competitive moves and countermoves.
What do you strive for on the Third Level of Consciousness? Is it money as a method of wielding power rather than money as a form of security? Is it prestige -- because the more prestige you have, the more you can manipulate people? Do your power addictions keep you preoccupied with external symbols such as a mod car, an attractive home, fashionable clothes, etc? Or have you leveled the game to internal status symbols -- such as knowledge and lots of hobbies so that others perceive you as an interesting, achieving person? Or perhaps sex has now become a power game whereby you enjoy sex not only for the sensations but also as a challenge to your Power Center. Do you seek the sexual partner who is hardest to attract because of the ego challenge?
Have you ever noticed that the people who are the most successful in the power game are simply living a hollow life with external evidences of worldly success -- but without really winning inside in terms of peace, serenity, and oneness with others? It often happens that the more successful a person becomes on the outside, the less successful he is on the inside. Anxiety, ulcers, and heart disease tend to increase with external “success.”
To the degree that your moment-to-moment consciousness is biased by security, sensations, and power, you are trapped in the lower consciousness folkways of our culture -- and you are not finding enough in life to be happy. You are ready for your next step toward higher consciousness when you deeply realize the utter futility of trying to make it in life using these lower consciousness levels. This does not necessarily mean that you must drastically change your external activities. For what you renounce is your addictive demands and not necessarily the things you are doing. For example, it is not money or sex that causes unhappiness -- it is your addictive demands for money or sex. It is the clanging of the emotion-backed circuits in your biocomputer that keeps you disappointed, frustrated, and suffering if the happenings outside you do not exactly correspond to your inside programs. Thus you do not renounce your worldly activities -- for it’s all here for you to enjoy. You renounce your emotion-backed demands which keep you from enjoying the bountiful life that has always been available around you.
It is easy to see the more obvious power games involving money, political power, status symbols, people bossing each other around, etc. But it is helpful to be aware of the more subtle power games we play. For instance, it is clear that someone talking in a loud voice may be trying to control people, but a power game may also be present when someone talks in an unusually soft voice that makes people be quiet and listen hard if they are to hear. Someone who is constantly ordering people around and who forcefully insists that people accept his or her opinion can be coming from the Power Center. However, someone who is always quiet can be subtly manipulating by his or her “sweet acceptance” and “you-always-know-best” attitude. This type of subtle manipulation makes one put energy into extracting what someone else really wants. This game creates a subject-object type of separateness. We might ask ourselves, “What do I do to get what I want?” “What masks do I wear?” “What part in the drama do I play?”
You have hundreds of things in your head that you are now protecting as a part of your personal boundaries and social position. You will grow in happiness as you gradually realize that all of this stuff is not who you really are. It’s just ego-backed programming that you picked up on your way to where you are now. Your energy will enormously increase and your sleep needs decrease as you give up guarding the various manifestations of your security, sensation, and power addictions.
One of the bonuses of higher consciousness is that when you give it all up, you get it all back. What you give up are your inner addictive demands -- what you get back is more of everything that you need in order to be happy. As you grow into the Fourth Center of Consciousness, you will find that you have all the power you need in your life -- in fact you will have more than you need. For your unconditional acceptance of everyone around you will open doors that you could never have opened when you operated from the Third Center of Consciousness.
When you approach life with power addictions, you will be instantly resisted by the power addictions of other people. Instead of opening themselves to help you get what you want, they close themselves and are automatically antagonistic to your power thrusts which threaten them. As you grow into the higher Centers of Consciousness, you will begin to experience an effectiveness that you could never attain when you were shoving from the Third Center, trying to bulldoze life into giving you what you thought you needed for happiness.
Some of the most dramatic performances of your ego and your rational mind will be triggered at the Power Center of Consciousness. Some methods of consciousness growth treat the ego and rational mind as enemies to be destroyed. In the Living Love Way, we regard the ego and the rational mind as friends that are really there to help us -- but they can be like ignorant friends who hurt us as often as they help us. Helpfulness requires both skill and understanding. Our egos and rational minds are often like the well-meaning neighbor who sees his friend lying in the street with a broken spine after being hit by a car. When he picks him up to take him to the hospital, the broken spine crushes the spinal nerves so that his friend will never walk again. In trying to help, the neighbor ignorantly damages his friend. Similarly, when our egos and rational minds use lower consciousness programming, they continually keep our lives from working in ways that produce optimal enjoyment.
The Living Love Way does not try to kill your ego or your rational mind. Since they are our friends that would like to help us, we engage them to help us root out our addictions and uplevel them to preferences. We realize that our egos trigger a feeling of uneasiness when the outside world does not fit our addictive models of how it all should be. They also give us a flush of pleasure when the outside world does fit our addictions. In either case, we need our egos to give us the emotional experiences that enable us to become aware of our addictive demands -- and to understand the heavy price that we pay for all of them sooner or later if they are not reprogrammed into preferences.
The goal is not to kill your ego -- but to retire it due to lack of work. If you killed your ego, you might retreat into a schizoid-type shell that would keep you from enjoying the beautiful things life offers you. Your ego has a vital part to play in revealing to you the addictions you have yet to work on. When you reprogram your addictions, your ego will automatically stop triggering negative emotions that interfere with your happiness. So welcome your ego, watch its operation, and use it as a necessary part of you that will give you the experiences you need in order to grow into higher consciousness.
The Three Lower Centers Produce Unhappiness in Life
Security Center - Associated Emotions: Fear, worry, anxiety, etc.
1. Constant driving compulsiveness. 2. Constant fear of loss. 3. The rational mind can always trigger an unlimited chain of future possibilities to worry about.
Sensation Center - Associated Emotions: Disappointment, frustration, boredom, etc.
1. Constant driving compulsiveness 2. The constant fear of loss. 3. When we repetitively experience an enjoyable sensation, we become satiated and bore ourselves.
Power Center - Associated Emotions: Anger, resentment, irritation, hostility, hate, etc.
1. Constant driving compulsiveness 2. Constant fear of loss. 3. Our power threat stimulates a counter- attack from others and we are continually caught up in defending and trying to control.
The Two Joyous Centers
In the previous chapter, we saw that the Security, Sensation, and Power Centers of Consciousness cannot be depended upon to continuously enable you to feel that you are getting “enough” to be happy in life. One problem with the Security Center is that, with a little imagination, you can always find one more loophole in your security setup that must be plugged. And there is no end. The Sensation Center of Consciousness cannot work to produce happiness for you either, because you will very likely become bored with anything you do repetitively. You seek to solve the boredom trap by finding more and more variety, but this in its turn just brings another set of problems into your life. The Power Center of Consciousness will not work to produce happiness for you because your pushing, dominating, and manipulating will stimulate similar actions from other people. Their defensive and offensive tactics then require you to be more dominating and forceful, but this only works for a short while until the people outside of you respond with even more force. What you expected to be a simple solution to a situation actually sets up the next round of problems in your life. When you see the unconscious dance in which you have been ensnarling yourself, you begin to realize that a higher Center of Consciousness is required to enable you to enjoy your life.
In the last chapter we learned that when our consciousness operates on the lower three Centers of Security, Sensation, and Power, we can achieve greater external success -- but be a failure inside in terms of happiness. We are beginning to get somewhere in our journey toward awakening when our consciousness deals more and more with the drama of our lives from the point of view of the two joyous Centers -- the Love Center and the Cornucopia Center.
The Fourth Center of Consciousness - The Love Center
The Fourth Center of Consciousness in the Living Love Way is called the Love Center. Love comes with the unconditional acceptance of everyone and everything around us. And how do we do this? When your consciousness lives in the Love Center, you instantly accept anything that anyone does or anything that happens -- but the acceptance is only on an emotional basis. You’re still entitled to your preferences. A mother will love her child eventhough he upsets the quart of milk and it smashes on the kitchen floor. She prefers that the quart remain intact. But if it spills, that’s here and now. Why get emotionally upset and bother herself and the baby too?
How do you love everyone unconditionally so that you do not upset yourself -- no matter what he does or says? You can do this only by transcending your security, sensation, and power addictions -- for it is only your emotional programming that disturbs you when the events outside do not conform with the programming that you have conditioned inside of you. As your addictions begin to melt away, you begin to experience everything and everyone around you in a different way. You view them not in terms of how they meet your addictive needs -- for you are losing those “needs” -- you just view them in terms of, “Well, that’s what is -- here and now.” You realize that each individual has the need to be doing exactly what he or she is doing -- here and now. You realize that everyone (including yourself) is creating a world in which one’s addictions are lived out. When you consciously notice the hollowness and suffering that these addictions cause, you achieve insights that help you get free from them.
You are in the Love Center when you accept everything people do as part of their journeys toward awakening. You know that if they are consciously on the path, they will similarly accept your moment-to-moment “stuff” -- for this is what helps them grow, too. And if they are not consciously on the path and become angry, that’s their problem. As your addictions become up-leveled to preferences, you begin to find that you can instantly accept what was previously unacceptable emotionally. After all, you really have no choice. Whatever it -- IS!!! That’s where it’s at -- right here and now. You might be able to change the situation one second, one minute, one hour, or one day from now. And by not getting irritated, you will be more effective in realizing your preferences.
As you learn to live more and more in the Love Center of Consciousness, you will begin to find that you are creating a new world in which your consciousness resides. People and conditions are no longer a threat to you -- for no one can threaten your preferences. “Others” can only threaten your addictions. And you’re losing them fast. Soon your mind will create no “others.”
As your addictions are reprogrammed, you will find that your “ego” has less and less to do, and your ego will activate the egos of other people less and less. Thus people begin to experience you as becoming purer as you give your ego less to do. This helps them become purer. Even though they may still be stuck in the lower three Centers, they find that they seldom get in touch with tense feelings when they are with you. They can begin to get a taste of what it is like to live in the more joyous Centers of Consciousness. They may come down when they are not with you, but you will have planted a seed of awakening.
When you live more and more in the Love Center of Consciousness, you will find that your blood circulation will improve -- and your hands and feet may be warmer. Your blood vessels will no longer be tight and restricted so that you feel cold excessively and deeply. Your face and the back of your neck and head will stay especially warm and glowing. Your skin will experience cold but you will not feel cold inside. This is one of the beautiful physiological things that happens as you grow into higher consciousness. This greater openness of your circulatory system also affects your brain and other organs to make them function more effectively. Colds and illness become rare.
As you spend more and more time in the Fourth Center of Consciousness, you will find that you enjoy touching people more and more. Now that you are seldom paranoid you can enjoy the beautiful feelings of warmth and oneness that you can experience when you make contact not only through words, sight, and sound, but also through your touch receptors. As you break through the illusion of duality and separation, you begin to realize that it was only your head that previously kept you from loving people unconditionally. It was not their actions as you had been conditioned to believe.
You begin to see with insight the worldly dramas of addictions that people are still playing out on the first three levels of consciousness, and you feel compassion toward those who still are involved in the illusion of separateness. You know that the best way to help them is to work on yourself so that they can perceive (perhaps for the first time in their lives) the experience of unconditional love. They begin to say to themselves, “Wow, here is someone who accepts me all the time -- no matter what I do or say.” Love doesn’t require you to get involved in their “stuff,” as they struggle through life seeking security, sensations, and power. You just accept them because they are there -- because they have a right to be there -- and because where they are is perfect for their growth -- and also yours.
The visual sensations disappeared -- but your Conscious-awareness remained. Behind all of your thoughts, sensations, and images, your Conscious-Awareness is always there. Most of the time we keep it smothered under a ceaseless Niagara of words, activities, thoughts, and sensations which keep our minds analyzing, calculating, symbolizing, talking, remembering, futuring, and pasting.
The experiment above demonstrates that your visual field and your Conscious-awareness are not the same. Let’s go further. Close your eyes. Do it now for one minute before reading on.
What were you aware of? When you shut off the visual input to your biocomputer, you probably became aware of sounds. But sounds are not your Conscious-awareness. Suppose you go to a completely dark, quiet place. With the visual and sound inputs quiet, you may now begin to tune in to your body on deeper and deeper levels. You can experience bodily sensations that have previously been up-staged by the more dominating happenings of your five senses and the stimulation of your ideas, thoughts, and words. You only experience your essence fully when you have quieted your emotion-backed drama and the torrent of addictive stuff churned out by your rational mind.
In other words, you are the awareness of your consciousness! You might wish to visualize a television screen in the middle of your head where all of your thoughts, images, and emotions are projected. It’s all there in color -- including sights, sounds, words, and thought. It’s all going by on this imaginary television screen in the middle of your head. But you are not the television screen. You are not the images or stuff on the screen. You are that which is conscious of being aware of all of the stuff which is running on the screen. You are simply the watcher of the stuff on the screen. As Ram Dass puts it, “Observe your scene from a quiet corner of your mind in which there is nothing to do but ‘see.’” You are the consciousness that just “sees” what is happening on the screen. Your essence is pure Conscious-awareness.
As the watcher of the screen, you are perfect. The screen may be projecting a horrendous movie that is showing all kinds of pain and suffering -- on the screen. Or the screen may reflect a happy movie that shows a beautiful sunset, a delightful sexual experience, or an enjoyable meal. But the essential you is the pure awareness that just watches the stuff go by on the screen of your life. Behind what you think you are -- YOU ARE!
The essential you is perfect, has always been perfect, and always will be perfect! There is nothing you can do to alter the perfection of the essential you. And this perfection does not need to be guarded with ego. When you realize who or what you really are, your ego can relax and you can really enjoy your life. For nothing poses either a threat or an “absolute necessity” to you any longer. You can truly enjoy being the essential you -- and only then can you totally and continuously enjoy the unfolding drama that your life brings you.
As you begin to experience yourself as the watcher of the drama from the Sixth Center of Consciousness, you no longer labor under the illusion that your intellectual effort, will, and frantic paranoid watchfulness are necessary to keep the world operating properly. Instead you experience the power, the deep peace, and the exquisite beauty of letting your energy harmonize with the energies around you. You realize that by tuning in to the Ocean of loving energy around you, you can have far more security, enjoyable sensations, effectiveness, and love than you ever need in order to live a continuously beautiful life. And as you learn to identify the essential you with your Conscious-awareness (instead of with the social and individual stuff that your ego has backed up in the past) you deeply and continuously enjoy both the drama of your life and the perfect being that you naturally are.
The Seventh Center of Consciousness - The Cosmic Consciousness Center
You will observe that your growth towards the highest Centers of Consciousness may fall naturally into three phases:
As your consciousness begins to dwell more and more in the Love Center and Cornucopia Center, you will begin to develop a multi-centered perception that will enable you to see all of your thoughts and actions from each of the first five Centers.
Continuing this multi-centered awareness, you learn to witness yourself on the detached Conscious-awareness Center (the Sixth Center). At this level, there is no longer a feeling of lower or higher consciousness -- it is all the same from the Conscious-awareness Center. And then,
You go behind the Conscious-awareness Center to the selfless, unitive space of the Cosmic Consciousness Center.
The Sixth Center of Consciousness is characterized by being aware of yourself. There is your essence -- your Conscious-awareness -- and there is the daily drama of your body, your senses, and your rational mind. You see all of your drama with insight and perspective. Although this is a peaceful, beautiful Center of Consciousness, there is still duality. There is still a fine line of separation between you and the world.
On the seventh level of consciousness, one is catapulted from self-awareness into pure awareness. In other words, one is no longer witnessing oneself. The body, mind, senses, and Conscious-awareness are not separated. In this Center of Consciousness, one does not experience security, sensations, power, love, and Cornucopia -- one is security, sensations, power, love, and the fullness of life. The highest state of consciousness is attained by reprogramming what is called the “self.” One’s thought activity is calmed. The direction of perception has shifted from subject-object manipulation, through a phase of loving acceptance, to a unity with everything in the environment.
To understand this distinction between experiencing something and being something, consider what happens when you have an intense sexual climax. Up until the time of orgasm, you have been experiencing the sexual sensations such as increasing warmth, pressure, and stimulation of your sexual organs. You are experiencing sex. But at the moment of sexual climax you are no longer the experiencer. You may no longer be conscious of yourself enjoying sexual happenings. During the moments of an intense orgasm, you are the experience. At that moment you may feel a total oneness with your sexual partner -- for there is no longer the experience of you as a separate consciousness.
At the Cosmic Consciousness level, one can function with enormous effectiveness because the screens that limit one’s receptiveness have been eliminated. One is now tuned to the finer nuances of the surrounding world. One is open to the broad spectrum of all of the finer cues that the world has been sending all the time -- but which were previously not picked up by a consciousness occupied by security, sensation, and power on the lower levels, and love, Cornucopia, and witnessing on the intermediate levels.
Perhaps a word of advice may be helpful here. The Seventh Center is extremely difficult to attain. Out of the four billion people in this world, there may only be about a hundred people who are consistently in that Center. Achieving it usually requires a detached life style and a long period of intense consciousness growth practice. Even preferences must be eliminated to reach this Center. The author of this book generates his experience of life using the Fourth, Fifth, and Sixth Centers and enjoys life continuously. This does not mean he is a hundred per cent free of addictions, but he often goes many weeks without any separating emotional feelings.
When you have eliminated about ninety-nine percent of your addictive programming, the remaining amount will probably be very subtle and will not interfere with happiness. When you have done the inner work required to get to this level of effectiveness, you know exactly which Pathway or Method to use whenever you experience the beginning of an addictive sequence. Within seconds or minutes you work through whatever security, sensation, or power addiction you are triggering and then you are right back at the Love or Cornucopia Center again. These Centers are totally adequate to enable you to live a happy, fulfilled, wise, effective, and enjoyable life. It is worthwhile knowing about the Cosmic Consciousness Center, but do not let it become another addiction. If you work hard to use the Fourth, Fifth, or Sixth Centers of Consciousness in processing and interpreting your own energies and the energies of the world around you, you will experience a deep peace and enjoyment within your heart that is wholly enough.
Five Methods For Working On Yourself
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness offers you Five Methods that you can use in working on yourself. These Methods have been chosen for busy people who are deeply involved in various dramas of life. They do not detach you from your daily routines. The Living Love Methods can be used while you are engaged in running a business, making love, cleaning the house, or watching a movie. These Methods take you into your life situations and require you to view the people and things around you as your teachers. But you are really your master teacher all the time.
When you use these Five Methods continuously in your moment-to-moment daily life, you will find a turned-on satisfaction in your daily stream of consciousness. You will experience a liberation that you have always wanted, but have not been able to find in life before. You will find true freedom from the computer-like programming that separates and alienates you from the loving being you naturally are.
Here are the Five Methods:
Method No. 1
Memorize the Twelve Pathways and use them to guide you through your daily life situations.
When you learn to use them, you will find that the Twelve Pathways furnish you with the complete solution to every emotional problem in your life. But to benefit maximally from them, you must intuitively use them on the deepest levels of awareness. Once you have them memorized, say them before getting up in the morning and before going to sleep at night. This may increase your probability of realizing the Fourth Center of Consciousness in a year or two instead of many years or even decades.
Whenever you feel worried, angry, jealous, fearful, anxious, or any other uncomfortable emotional feeling, life is giving you a message. It is always telling you that you are not following the Twelve Pathways. Your next step is to find the ones that you are not using and let them show you what to do to feel beautiful again.
Stop churning over the usual questions that you ask yourself (which have not helped you find solutions). If these usual ways of talking to yourself were effective, you would be happy, peaceful, serene, and loving -- here and now. Instead of using your past way of talking to yourself, just keep going over the Twelve Pathways. Remember that their purpose is to keep you centered, tuned in, conscious, and loving. They are not designed to help you manipulate the people and things around you to make them fit your inside addictions. The Twelve Pathways will help you reprogram your mind so that ALL of your addictions become preferences -- and then you can live peacefully. The more you are uptight, the more important it is for you to stop worrying about the outside condition that you feel “makes you upset.” Instead, concentrate on the inner addictions or expectations with which you hassle yourself.
The Twelve Pathways will show you what it means to be truly alive. You will look back to your present state of consciousness and realize that you have been far more dead than alive. Everything you need will come to you in a seemingly miraculous fashion as you live with these Pathways. The peace, love, and effectiveness that you have always wanted will be yours.
Method No. 2
Be aware at all times of which Center of Consciousness you are experiencing.
You will discover that working on your consciousness is the most fulfilling thing you can do in your life. Whether you are driving a car, reading a book, or even caught in an addictive argument with someone, you can always add to the beauty of your outside drama if you are constantly aware of what Center of Consciousness you are using.
Everything you do has aspects on all levels of consciousness. We can enjoy life on all levels -- and not just be hung up on the lower three Centers. For example, if you are making love, you can be aware of security aspects (the Security Center), or you can just enjoy the groovy feelings (the Sensation Center), or you can be conscious of the submission or control aspects (the Power Center). You can be aware of love-making as an act of pure acceptance of another and an experience of unconditional love (the Love Center). The act of love-making is another manifestation of the way the world offers you everything you need (the Cornucopia Center). Or you can watch the entire drama from your Center of Centers (the Conscious- awareness Center).
As you constantly uplevel the Center of Consciousness that you are experiencing, you will find that each time you go up one Center of Consciousness, you interact with more and more people. You will also liberate more and more energy. For example, if you are totally preoccupied with security, you will not have much energy for seeking sensations and power. And you cannot feel close to people when your consciousness is concerned solely with your security. On this level people are objects to be manipulated. You find increasing involvement with people and increasing energy as you uplevel to the Sensation Center, the Power Center, and then to the Love Center and the Cornucopia Center. Each Center generates more energy and lets you relate to more people than the previous Center. Each Center Opens the door to an increased enrichment of your life.
Your awareness of which Center of Consciousness you are experiencing and your use of the Twelve Pathways to continually guide you are the Living Love Way to meditate. And you do this all the time in your busy life so that your entire life becomes meditation. In the Living Love Way, meditation is not a holy ritual to be performed once or twice a day. It is a method for consistently seeing things clearly and consciously -- here and now.
Method No. 3
Become more consciously conscious of the cause-effect relationship between your addictions and the resulting unhappiness.
To tune in to the enormous effectiveness of the Living Love Way, it is essential that you become increasingly conscious of each of your addictions and the way it generates a series of events that make you suffer. It is important that you notice how each addiction involves your ego and your rational mind -- which, instead of letting go of the addiction, begins to churn out a “rational” solution which triggers another round of problems in your life.
Changes leading to happiness come most rapidly when you can fully engage both your ego and rational mind (two of your most powerful faculties) in the game of helping you eliminate each addiction. Many addictions will rapidly melt away as soon as you consciously experience that the suffering they cause is actually due to the addiction. Some of the deeper addictions that were programmed into your biocomputer with pain during the first two or three years of your life require more inner work and more “living through” to fully experience the extensive ramifications of the pattern of suffering they are bringing into your life. The key to the Third Method is to consciously connect all of the suffering in your life with the addictive, emotion-backed models and expectations that you keep telling yourself you must have to be happy.
This Method is so basic and fundamental that it is difficult to overstate its importance. If you are extremely upset and you don’t remember the Pathways, the Seven Centers of Consciousness, or any other Method, this Third Method (that calls for pinpointing the addiction and connecting it with the unhappiness and suffering in your life) should be able to help you become conscious again! Resolve now that you will never again let your ego and rational mind try to convince you that the outside world is doing it to you -- that others are the cause of your suffering. Whenever you lay the responsibility for your emotional feelings on the people and things around you, you perpetuate your entrapment in your security, sensation, and power programming. To break loose from these lower consciousness traps, you must always take full responsibility for what you are experiencing and get to work as quickly as possible on the addiction that causes you to reject emotionally what people are doing or saying.
By taking full responsibility, you give your ego and rational mind an entirely different direction in which to operate. They begin to work on helping you to reprogram instead of egging you on to manipulate and fight the people in your life. This changed direction of regard from the outside world to your own inner programming is the key to benefiting from this unusually rapid Method of consciousness growth. If you become an expert at pinpointing the addiction that you are using to trigger your fear, anger, grief, resentment, or jealousy, within several months you may be able to enjoy the Fourth Center of Consciousness much of the time. Your energy, perceptiveness, and love will soar to create a new “you.”
At the Living Love Center, we have a printed card that we use in our Pathway Circle exercises. This card outlines the shortcut procedure for liberating yourself from your addictions. It reads:
To become competent in applying the Third Method, you should develop your own technique for becoming aware of which addiction is causing you to feel alienated from the here and now in your life. You may wish to ask yourself such questions as: “What is happening right now?” (In answering this do not use your rational mind or your ego to justify, intellectualize, or interpret. Just give the facts of what is happening, such as who, what, when, where, and how.)
“What specific emotion am I experiencing?” (In answering this tell what you feel -- not what you think. Words that describe emotional feelings are: anxious, harried, bored, lonely shy, irritable, annoyed, frustrated, confused, sad, depressed, disappointed, worried, afraid, resentful, hostile, angry, jealous, grief-filled, guilty, tense, nervous, embarrassed, etc.)
“What am I telling myself right now?” “What pains or tensions are being evoked in my body at this moment?” “What do my posture and face look like?” “What is the dance that my rational mind is doing to prove me right and everybody else wrong?” “What do I want to change in the outside world instead of doing the inner work of changing my own response to it?” “What sort of phony front is my ego trying to maintain?” “What past events were particularly painful so as to give my biocomputer this programming that makes me upset when a similar event happens?” “Have I suffered enough?” “Do I really want to be free from this automatic response whenever the here and now of my life checks me out?” “Exactly what am I rejecting in the here and now?” “What am I rejecting about myself?” “What threat does this person or situation represent to me?” “What is the worst that could happen?” “Could I accept this and still be happy?” “What am I defending?” “What am I hiding?” “What is it about me that I think people can’t love?” “What do I imagine the other person is thinking?” “What mask am I wearing?” “What dances are my pride and my prestige making me perform?” “What am I demanding in order to feel happy and enough? Of myself? Of others? Of the outside world?” “What is the model I have of the way I should be, must be, or have to be?” “What is the model of the way I should be treated?” “What are the specific details of the model that I have of the way the world should be in order for me to be accepting, loving, and flowing?” “What Center of Consciousness am I operating out of?” “If a magic genie were to appear at this moment, and this genie had the power to alter the situation exactly as I instruct, what request would I make of this genie?”
Once you have pinpointed the addiction, your next step is to reprogram it into a preference. When you reprogram, you use your will and determination to give clear, firm operating instructions to your biocomputer. You tell it that you want it to function in a different way in processing incoming data in the future. This means that with intensity and conviction, you put a new operating instruction into your mind. Reprogramming works most effectively if you repeat the reprogramming instruction many, many, many times. The next chapter, which deals with Consciousness focusing, gives you additional information on how to give a “knock-out punch” to your heavier addictions.
Always remember that the key to using the Third Method is to look deeply within yourself to find the emotion-backed demand that you are using to upset yourself. It’s this simple. Just become more consciously conscious of the cause-effect relationship between your addictions and the resulting unhappiness, and you will be on the escalator that can take you directly to the Fourth Center of Consciousness.
Method No. 4
Use the Catalyst ALL WAYS US LIVING LOVE as a tool for cognitive centering.
Your growth into higher consciousness can be more rapid if you keep a Catalyst going in your mind as a foreground figure against which all of your sensations, feelings, and thoughts are the background. This constant repetition helps you to calm your mind, to increase your powers of concentration, to broaden your perceptions, to permit your intuitive wisdom to emerge, to free you from your addictions, and to keep you feeling great.
The catalyst ALL WAYS US LIVING LOVE can be slowly and silently repeated to enable you to continuously tune in to that part of you that does not see others as him, her, or them -- but always us. Oneness is yours when you feel everyone as only us -- when you see things through the eyes of others and feel things within their psychic space as though it were your own.
After you have accumulated several hours of experience with the Catalyst, you will probably feel its vibrations and implications on deeper and deeper levels. Since only one thing can receive your full attention at a time, this centering technique can crowd out negative thoughts and feelings and replace them with the vibrations of Living Love. This enables you to control your racing mind-stuff whenever you wish.
A repeated phrase constantly recaptures your attention. The Catalyst ALL WAYS US LIVING LOVE may be used to change your mood in a positive way. When you are disturbed or have an upsetting experience, you can repeat this phrase over and over until you feel calm and centered. Through consistent practice, it will develop increasingly greater effectiveness.
This tool for cognitive centering can be most effective if you:
To increase your perceptiveness of people, you may wish to use the Catalyst as you look into their faces. This helps you get behind your games and their games to the place where we are just loving beings. You may wish to avoid eye-to-eye contact as this can involve ego (“I can look at you more penetratingly than you can look at me”). Instead find a small patch of light at the bridge of the nose between the eyes that is created by most lighting conditions. With your eyes fixed on this spot, experience the many changes in the face that are perceived as you run the Catalyst.
Method No. 5 Consciousness Focusing
One of the most powerful of the Living Love Methods is the technique of Consciousness Focusing. This Method is explained in detail in the next two chapters.
Consciousness Focusing is one of the most powerful Methods for reprogramming strong addictions. When used effectively, a lifetime addiction can sometimes be wiped out of one’s emotional programming in a surprisingly short time. The greater the opportunity that something offers us for security, pleasurable sensations, or power, the more we will have developed addictive programming that exposes us to disappointment and suffering. Consciousness Focusing helps us reprogram these strong addictions that make us expend so much futile energy in guarding them and living them out in our daily dance.
Consciousness focusing helps us to use our present life situations to grow maximally. To use this new Method, we go forward in life rather than retreat from it. For example, if your marriage relationship is uncomfortable to you or if you are upsetting yourself in your business affairs, you can use this effective technique to grow much more rapidly than if you did not have such heavy life problems.
Consciousness focusing is based on the fact that your emotional programming is established by whatever you tell yourself with strong feelings when you are in pain and suffering. Actually, you’ve been using Consciousness Focusing all of your life. Perhaps when you were a young child you stuck your finger into a light bulb socket and received an electric shock. You instantly withdrew your finger in pain, and told yourself that the light bulb socket was the cause of the pain. That may have been the last time you ever did that because your biocomputer strongly programmed an instruction, “I will not put my finger in light bulb sockets because it hurts.” From then on in your life, whenever your finger even got near the inside of a light bulb socket, a “red flag” went up in you to make sure you didn’t get shocked again.
When you are peaceful and calm, you have the best opportunity to reprogram your rational mind -- but not your emotion-backed addictions. For example, you can study a book or listen to a lecture most effectively when you are calm. Your biocomputer will not handle the lecture or book very well when you are upset because your addictions have the ability to dominate and override other processes in your biocomputer. But when you are emotionally upset, you then have a superlative opportunity to reprogram your addictions by using the Consciousness Focusing Method. Thus every time you feel fearful, jealous, anxious, or angry, your life is giving you a golden opportunity to use this method to liberate yourself from an addiction.
Consciousness Focusing can be used at any time to work on an addiction. However, it is most effective in getting rid of a deeper level security, sensation, or power addiction when, in the past few weeks, you (1) have applied the Pathways, (2) are aware of what Center of Consciousness you were using to make yourself upset, and (3) have used the Third Method to connect the addiction with the suffering that you are feeling.
You may use Consciousness Focusing to reprogram a heavy addiction when you want freedom from the addiction more intensely than you want a change in the external world. For example, after a five-month period of repeatedly experiencing jealousy, I wanted freedom from the addiction that triggered the separating emotion of jealousy more than I wanted to control the woman I was with. At that point, in about 90 minutes of Consciousness Focusing, I apparently reprogrammed the addictions which trigger jealousy for the rest of my life. Usually, however, repeated programming sessions are necessary.
Here’s the way to use the Method of Consciousness Focusing: Step 1. EXPLORE THE SUFFERING
Step 2. Pinpoint The Addiction
Now pinpoint the addiction (or addictions) that are responsible for your suffering in the situation you outlined in Step 1 above. Clearly formulate the exact addictive demands that you are making. You may wish to review the Third Method explained in the previous chapter which tells how to formulate the addiction. To get rid of suffering, you must first know the immediate cause. The cause of the suffering will always be an emotion-backed program in your head. This addictive programming must always be present as an intervening variable between the chain of events in the outside world and your uptightness and unhappiness. If you did not have this addictive demand, the outside events would be powerless to trigger what you are now experiencing. It works this way:
Outside Event ➜ Your Addictive Programming ➜ Your Unhappiness
If you remove the middle factor, there is no way the outside event can make you generate an unhappy experience. Your ego and rational mind have been blaming the left hand box (the outside event) for your suffering. You are now training your nervous system to take responsibility for your experience. You’ll have to deeply convince your rational mind that your addictive demands are the immediate cause of your suffering. Be very specific in pinpointing the demand. Exactly what do you want in that situation? What would you like to change in that situation? Tune in to your feelings and check to make sure you feel that you’ve pinpointed the demand which is causing your suffering.
Step 3. Select Your Reprogramming Phases
First look back at all the past suffering you have brought to yourself in similar situations. Usually your ego and rational mind blamed others for your unhappiness. This kept you from seeing that it is your own addictions that have created the problems in your life. Look at the long chain of similar events in your past. Take full responsibility for the fact that you were doing it to yourself. Now look beyond the present into the future. How many years do you probably have to live? How long do you want to continue to make yourself unhappy over this sort of thing? Have you really had enough unhappiness and feelings of alienation, pain, and separateness from this addictive demand? Proceed when you are sure.
Now select a reprogramming instruction that you want to forcefully put into your biocomputer. This will be a direct command to your biocomputer. Experience has shown that this command can either be in a negative form such as, “I don’t have to be jealous when my lover is with someone else” or a positive form such as “I am enough.” Your marvelous biocomputer is excellent at handling instructions both to do something or not to do something. Choose a reprogramming phrase that is short, pithy, and that feels good when you say it rapidly with intensity behind it. Start out with a reprogramming phrase that directly refers to the situation covered in Step 1 above. Thus, “I don’t need to feel worthless when Sue rejects me” is a specific level to start with. Then you can go on to more general programmings like, “It is really harmless to be rejected!” “I don’t have to get upset when I’m rejected!” “You win some and you lose some!” Don’t start reprogramming until you are completely fed up with the addictive demand. When you see clearly that it is your addiction that is immediately causing your suffering and not the situation in itself, and when you see how unnecessary it is to make the demands you have been making, then you are ready to start reprogramming. If you still feel you would rather satisfy your addictions than get rid of them, you are not ready to reprogram. In that case, use the other methods to gain insights. Link the suffering with the addiction, continually looking at the suffering which that addiction creates in your life and seeing how it is just your addictive programming which creates the suffering -- not the outside world. Remind yourself that negative, separating emotions never help you to get what you really want; they only work against you.
Step 4. Focus Your Consciousness On Reprogramming
Now tense your body all over to build up tension in your autonomic nervous system and thus add to your readiness to modify your emotional programming. You will find that a position kneeling on the floor with your head down near your knees will facilitate this method. (It does not need to be done in that position, however.) With maximum determination to get rid of the addiction that is causing your suffering, forcefully repeat one or more reprogramming phrases you have selected. Do it over and over and over again. It may help to yell or cry when you repeat these phrases. But it’s your determination and will to be free of the addiction that really accomplishes the reprogramming -- not the noise. Clench your fists or beat on the floor as you say the reprogramming phrase. Tighten your arm or leg muscles, or do anything else that feels good to you while you repeatedly hammer your reprogramming phrase into the deepest parts of your biocomputer. If you are yelling during Consciousness Focusing, you can use a pillow or a small plastic waste basket (head size!) with a sponge in it to reduce the noise. The wastebasket both amplifies the sound in your ears and helps you keep your neighbors happier by greatly cutting down on the outside sound.
Keep focusing your reprogramming phrases into your biocomputer by forcefully repeating them over and over again with intense determination to be free. If your biocomputer is ready to let go of the old programming that is causing your suffering, the emotional charge that you experience as you repeat these phrases will become less and less. You will begin to develop a feeling of buoyancy and freedom. Consciousness Focusing feels great when done correctly. Constantly keep in mind that this procedure for Consciousness Focusing is effective to the degree that you have thoroughly linked your suffering with a specific addictive programming that your ego and rational mind have been guarding and defending. Consciousness Focusing works to the degree that you really desire freedom from the addiction. If part of you still really wants the outside world to change in order for you to be happy, your attempts at Consciousness Focusing will be only partially effective. You can’t fool your biocomputer into reprogramming unless you really mean it and want it.
When you experience an addiction, if possible use Consciousness Focusing immediately. It always works best when you use the initial emotional surge that makes you feel afraid, angry, jealous, or resentful. If you are not ready to do Consciousness Focusing, use one of the other methods so that you can gain the insights which will enable you to drop the addiction. If your emotions cool out, it will be more difficult to generate the emotional energy. But using Consciousness Focusing at a later time can still be very effective. It always helps in some degree in chipping away part of our heavier rock-like addictions.
If you get in touch with an addiction when you are in an elevator, or seated in the middle of a big auditorium, it obviously will not be practical for you to immediately crouch down on the floor and engage in vigorous verbal reprogramming. In public situations, you can develop the ability to step up your determination, and just silently use the reprogramming phrases you have selected.
The above four steps are basic procedures for Consciousness Focusing. There are, however, a number of background techniques that will help you improve your skill in Consciousness Focusing. The next chapter will discuss the basic attitudes that enable Consciousness Focusing to work most rapidly.
A Life Saver
When You Are Drowning
In Negative, Separating Emotions
STEP 1: Explore The Suffering
Take several deep breaths; close your eyes; tune in to your feelings; let yourself really experience them.
Mentally re-create a factual objective picture of the scene you were involved in just before you experienced the most intense emotions. Who is involved? Where is it happening? What is happening? What is being said?
Now put yourself back in that scene and consciously experience the emotions you are generating: a) Tune into your body. Describe the physical sensations. Describe the feelings.
Exactly what emotions are you experiencing? Name them: fear, anger, disappointment, etc.
b) Get in touch with your interpretation of the incident. Ask yourself, “What words are going through my mind? What am I telling myself that is producing these emotions?”
c) To get in touch with the basic insecurities that underlie addictive demands, ask yourself: “What is it that is bothering me the most?” “What is the worst thing that could happen?”
STEP 2: Pinpoint The Addiction
At the time of the incident, how did you want things to be? What programmed attitudes or models did you have of how you should be, of how others should be, of how the drama “should” have been played?
To find the deeper underlying addictive demands, ask yourself: “If things go the way I want and my programmed model is fulfilled, what do I get?” “If I don’t get what I want and my model of how things should be is not fulfilled, what does it mean about me?” “How do I feel about myself?”
Now pinpoint your principal addictive demand or demands by asking yourself: “In this situation, exactly what am I addictively demanding?” “What do I think I have to have in order to be happy?”
STEP 3: Select Your Reprogramming Phases
Do you see how this addiction makes you act like a robot that responds automatically?
Do you see how you are making yourself suffer because of this addiction?
Can you see the repeated pattern of suffering that this addiction has
created in your life?
Have you had enough suffering? Are you willing to let go of the demand?
If not, make sure that the demand which you chose is what is really
bothering you in that situation and repeat Step III.
To change the old programming, choose one or two short, pithy
reprogramming phrases that counteract specific demands. Thus to counteract the demand for approval, the phrase “I don’t need approval” would be appropriate. To counteract a demand not to make mistakes, “I don’t have to reject myself if I make mistakes” would help. They should feel right when said rapidly with intensity.
Prepare to reprogram by replaying the scene and re-experiencing your emotions. Really get in touch with the suffering your addictions have caused you and with your determination to get free. Let your energy build for a drive toward freedom!
STEP 4 : FOCUS ON REPROGRAMMING.
Close your eyes. Take ten deep, rapid breaths. Tense your muscles. Build up all the emotional energy you can.
Then reprogram with intensity and power. Repeat your reprogramming phrases with gut-level determination until you feel that they have clicked into your biocomputer.
To get helpful insights, read the Twelve Pathways aloud and look at the Centers of Consciousness you are using.
Put yourself back in the same scene -- this time with the new programming in operation. Reaffirm the new programming by visualizing yourself responding to the situation with new positive responses and feelings based on your new programming. Reaffirm that you can be free of old programming -- free to be how you really want to be in order to enjoy all of your life.
Techniques of Consciousness Focusing
There are background attitudes and skills that increase the effectiveness of Consciousness Focusing. This chapter will discuss practical things that will help you to use this Method to reprogram addictions. But first let’s review the four steps of Consciousness Focusing:
1. Explore the suffering.
2. Pinpoint the addiction.
3. Select your reprogramming phrases.
4. Focus your consciousness on reprogramming.
Bearing in mind these steps, here are ways you can improve your effectiveness as you use this Fifth Method:
5. Welcome the people and situations that can help you become clearly and strongly aware of your addictions.
Usually you carefully protect yourself from people you “just can’t stand.” You run the other way when life gives you a relationship that worries you. When you begin to work on yourself through the Method of Consciousness Focusing, you try never again to retreat from any person or any life situation as long as it makes you aware of your addictions. You welcome and honor that situation, for it provides you with a continuous input from the outside world that makes you aware of emotional programming you must change in order to uplevel your consciousness. the Method of Consciousness Focusing cannot be used when you are peaceful, serene, and loving. It can only be used effectively at those moments when your existing emotional programming is creating in you feelings of duality and separateness and destroying your capacity to love.
Whatever you tell yourself at this time is absolutely crucial. So be sure to
blame all of your uptightness on your addictive programming.
You must change the way you talk to yourself about your life situations so that you no longer imply that anything outside of you is the immediate cause of your unhappiness. Instead of saying, “Joe makes me mad,” say, “I make
myself mad when I’m around Joe.” Instead of saying, “Mary irritates me when she is late,” say, “By not showing up on time, Mary continually reminds me that I’m addicted to punctuality.” This enables you to use the Method of Consciousness Focusing to gradually get rid of that part of your programming that makes you uptight when something does not conform to your expectations.
It is important to be very specific and accurate when you use Consciousness Focusing to reprogram your unconscious levels. Whatever you tell yourself when you are emotionally upset will play a part in the programming that you will have to live with in the future. If you make the conventional mistake of blaming the outside world, you will simply strengthen your addictions. If you say things that separate you from the outside world such as “Men are terrible,” “Women are awful,” you will be programming yourself in a way that will alienate you rather than unite you with the world. If you keep talking to yourself like that, you may develop a cancerous cynicism -- and that certainly is not working toward love and oneness. The world is what it is -- why make yourself upset about it? Instead of saying, “The cities are horrible,” tell yourself, “I must release myself from that part of my emotional programming that makes me upset when I experience certain things in cities.” In other words, you must stop telling yourself that the reason for your uptightness and unhappiness is “out there” -- when the truth of the matter is that it is simply your inside programming that continually keeps you uptight. When you have reprogrammed the addiction, then you can choose to put your energy into changing things in the most effective way -- and stop putting energy into things which you cannot change.
What you feelingly tell yourself at this crucial time when you are emotionally upset is vital in programming. You could program yourself to hate everyone by repeatedly telling yourself when you are upset, “Everyone is out to get me.” You can program this in your mind so tightly that it will alter your perception of everyone you see. If you want to love people, you can use this opportunity to put in “love programming.” Just tell yourself, “I’m tired of being outside of it all. I want to learn to love everyone -- no more duality and separateness for me. I’ve got to learn how to love unconditionally -- without demands.”
When people are emotionally upset and they continually tell themselves alienating things, they program themselves directly into neurosis or psychosis. When you are emotionally upset and use this opportunity to program yourself with the positive ways of Living Love, you wipe out vulnerabilities you programmed in the past.
To summarize: when you are upset, it is vital that you be extremely precise in putting the blame for your unhappiness exactly where it belongs. Your problems are not in the outside world. They are an interaction between your inside programming and the here and now realities of your body, mind, and the people and situations outside you. Since the outside realities are only minimally changeable by you, your happiness depends on your concentrating on changing what you can change -- your emotional programming that automatically makes you uptight when the world does not live up to your expectations. Seize every moment of anger, resentment, worry, frustration, anxiety, jealousy, or fear as a precious opportunity to start talking straight to yourself, so that you will no longer get uptight no matter what happens in the world around you.
Find the phrases and thoughts that generate the strongest emotions when you are upset.
If you wish to use the Method of Consciousness Focusing to get free for your lifetime from an addictive program, it is important to search for all of the phrases and thoughts that intensify your turbulent feelings. Force yourself to experience your emotions in the strongest way. Tell yourself, for example, “I’m sick and tired of getting angry all the time. It’s hell to be an automatic robot that stupidly triggers these silly emotional binges. I want to be free of all this idiocy. It’s silly for me to be smothered by all this.”
Be specific. For example, if jealousy is your problem, tell yourself, “I don’t want to be trapped in jealous feelings ever again.” Get into the trapped feeling and keep hunting for phrases that trigger strong feelings. When you find a phrase that intensifies your feelings and makes you cry, keep repeating it over and over until it no longer brings a response. Find other phrases and wear them out. Then go back to test again their ability to trigger strong emotions.
Remember, you must really want to do it. When you reprogram, don’t hesitate to yell to yourself, to beat a pillow, to clench your fists and teeth, to pound on a bed or table, or do anything else that gives notice to your ego and your rational mind that you are firmly determined to change your programming. Remember that many of these addictions have been operating in your biocomputer for ten, twenty, thirty or more years, and it is going to
take a lot of determination and work on your part to get them reprogrammed so that you are no longer automatically irritated by certain situations.
It is important to use reprogramming phrases which “feel right” to you. Reprogramming phrases should represent new insights you have gained while examining yourself and the situation which you found upsetting. By using the Pathways or the Centers of Consciousness, you may come to realize, for instance, that being criticized is not really a threat to you or harmful in any way. You may begin to perceive criticism as valuable feed back which may help you improve your performance. To reinforce this new attitude toward criticism and make it a permanent part of your programming, it is valuable to reprogram yourself with such phrases as “Criticism is really useful, not harmful” or “I can welcome criticism” or “I don’t need to get defensive when someone criticizes me.”
If you use reprogramming phrases that don’t “feel right” or that you do not consciously believe, you may find yourself experiencing increased resistance as you use the phrase. Instead of feeling relieved, free, and more confident as you reprogram yourself, you may feel increasingly tense and upset. If so, it is best to listen to the arguments your mind is coming up with in opposition to the reprogramming phrase and use the other methods or repeat the procedure on pages 98 and 99 (A LIFE SAVER) to get additional insights. It may be you are not ready to drop a certain demand. You might change the reprogramming phrase slightly into one that feels more appropriate to you. thus if “I don’t have to have a lover” doesn’t feel right, you might try “I don’t need so-and-so to be happy” or “I don’t need to feel hurt when I’m not with so-and-so.”
Don’t get ahead of yourself into a phony space. Wait until you really feel ready to drop a demand or an unconstructive way of reacting to a situation. When you realize you don’t really need something you thought you needed, you will find it easier to drop the addictive demand for it. When you have clearly seen the absurdity of your old programming, effective reprogramming phrases will spontaneously come to you.
Here are some sample reprogramming instructions to your biocomputer that you might find helpful:
“Life is my teacher.”
“I am not my addictive programming.”
“I am lovable.”
“I am the master of my life.”
“I don’t need to control people.”
“I can accept what is.”
“I don’t need other people’s approval.”
“It’s okay to make a mistake.”
“It’s okay to be me.”
“I don’t need to hide.”
“I have nothing to fear.”
“I can let go and just be.”
“I love myself.”
“It’s okay to make a fool of myself in public.”
“Rational mind -- stop sending me that stuff.”
“I am enough.”
“I accept my here and now.”
“I don’t have to reject myself when I (whichever applies) am angry, make a mistake, feel jealous, am not loving.”
“It’s OK to be right where I am.”
“I am getting free.”
“I don’t have to be a robot.”
“I don’t have to be uptight when this happens.”
“I don’t have to get caught up in his/her programming.”
“I can love him/her just the way he/she is.”
“It’s all US.”
“I don’t need (whichever applies) outside acceptance, approval, respect, love, special attention, romantic love, close relationships, to control, to manipulate, to be addicted, to be afraid.”
Make up your own phrases to fit your situation. As you become expert in reprogramming, you may be surprised by its effectiveness. With persistence and determination, you can reprogram all of your addictions -- no matter how long-standing or how strong they are.
In one Consciousness Focusing session you cannot wipe out all your undesired programming from the past years because you are usually upset about only one thing at a time. You can only reprogram that which is making you upset here and now. So talk specifically to yourself only about the problem that is making you feel bad right now. Suppose you relied on someone to help you and he forgot to do what he had agreed to do. You have made yourself angry. Now talk to yourself specifically about that situation: “I don’t have to feel angry when I feel people aren’t meeting agreements.” “I don’t need to put myself through all of this turmoil.” “People don’t have to live up to my models.” “I can enjoy what I do have.”
Talk very precisely to yourself, for the feelings you experience when you are upset are the feelings that will be programmed in some degree into your future. Say things like, “I can reprogram this addiction. I don’t need to get uptight over this situation. It’s just my programming that is making me uptight. I can change that programming. That programming doesn’t serve me in any way. I don’t need it for anything. I don’t need to hold on to that emotional reaction. Love is more important. I am creating this suffering in my mind. It’s all in my mind.”
As a way of exploring your suffering (Step 1),
you may wish to consciously play out your old programming.
It is helpful to distinguish between discharging old programming and creating new programming. When you consciously relive a disturbing situation and scream, “I hate you, I hate you!” with the full intention of getting rid of such garbage from your mind, you are not reinforcing negative programming; you are freeing yourself from it. Whenever your ego and rational mind automatically justify a negative emotion, you tend to perpetuate it. But when you re-live a disturbing situation and consciously discharge the emotions for the purpose of getting rid of them, you help free yourself from the addictive programming. Your biocomputer may receive new, constructive programming more readily when the old programming has been consciously run through and seen as unnecessary. The conscious discharge of addictive programming can generate energy that may be useful in getting ready for Consciousness Focusing.
It may be helpful to re-experience what you were telling yourself that caused you to generate these separating emotions. You might have created fear by telling yourself, “It would be terrible if I failed this exam.” Sorrow might have been created by telling yourself, “I can’t bear to live without Jane. I feel all alone.” Anger is generated by thoughts like, “He has no right to treat me that way. Who does he think I am?” You can fully re-live the situation by expressing all these emotion generating statements with full intensity while at the same time clearly realizing that you are merely discharging old programming (like dumping out the garbage). The game is to see through it and develop new and better ways of responding to such situations.
Build up the voltage of your emotional responses.
The effective use of the Method of Consciousness Focusing requires you to generate the strongest emotions that you can. Do everything you can to increase the electrochemical voltage of your emotional response. Most of your addictions were programmed into you through suffering and pain. One way to reprogram them is to use the tension that is associated with your stronger feelings. You may be able to get rid of a strong lifetime addiction in a short time -- if, and only if, you can build up your emotional intensity. If you cannot get into your emotions strongly and continuously, it may take months or years to reprogram the addiction.
Cry as much as possible -- for crying helps you to reprogram faster. Although crying is not essential, it may be the easiest way to build up the intensity needed for reprogramming rapidly. As you cry, keep telling yourself, “I don’t have to hassle myself with this. I don’t need separating emotions. I can be free of this demand. I don’t have to hold on.” The longer you cry and focus your consciousness on eliminating the addiction, the more you will be able to effectively eliminate the programming that makes you upset with that particular situation in your life.
It is not necessary to cry in order to reprogram, but it speeds up the process. Since much of your emotional programming was put into you through shock, pain, crying, and suffering, remember that it helps to consciously build up your present pain, crying, and suffering so that you can rapidly wipe out this programming.
Don’t let any person or any of your thoughts cool you down. Stop only when you just can’t keep the emotion churning any longer. It could be helpful to have someone with you who quietly hears you, but says nothing. Most people when they are with someone who is crying will say, “Everything will be all right. Let’s dry your tears,” or they suggest some type of diversion. But this stops you from using the Consciousness Focusing Method to burn out the unconscious-level programming that is making you suffer. If you start doing things, you will be using your senses and rational mind to smother the problem. It will temporarily make you feel good but it will leave you in the grip of your automatic programming when similar situations come up in the future. Anyone who is with you should understand what you are doing. She or he should simply experience your vibrations and silently encourage you to cry. Do everything possible to build up your emotional intensity. For when you build up the emotional intensity, you have a great opportunity to reprogram an addiction so that you no longer get yourself emotionally upset when certain things happen in the outside world.
Develop the confidence that you can absolutely be the master of yourself.
Keep telling yourself that you programmed yourself many years ago and that you can reprogram that which you programmed. Remember that you did it all to yourself. You are not in the grip of forces beyond your control! It’s all in your mind. Through the Method of Consciousness Focusing, you can be the master of your mind. You are a perfect being -- pure Conscious-awareness. Your only problem is that you are caught in the grip of too many things that you are telling yourself you must have to be happy. You are laying too many conditions on the outside world that it (and the people in it) cannot possibly meet. You are culture-bound. You have programmed yourself with all these addictions, demands, and expectations -- and you can reprogram yourself. When you have reprogrammed your addictions, you are free for a lifetime. All the happiness and the beauty of the world will then be yours.
It doesn’t matter if you feel that everything you have tried in life has failed. It doesn’t matter what particular hell you are in at this moment. If you are together enough to be reading a book on the Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness, you can use the Method of Consciousness Focusing. You have everything you need to work on yourself and you can positively reprogram yourself to eliminate all the hellish emotions that keep you from enjoying your life continuously.
Your emotion-backed addictions will not disappear the first time you use the Consciousness Focusing Method, but with each successive application of the Method you will gradually change an addiction to a preference. A complex addiction (such as an addiction to sex) has many different addictive triggers that will require separate sessions of Consciousness Focusing. Be patient and give yourself time to get results. It is not helpful to say or think at a disturbed moment, “This reprogramming is not working.” You could program your reprogramming not to work! Instead, say or think, “Slowly, but surely, I am getting free of these emotional triggers.” You put these neural connections in your head and with determination you can get them out.
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness thus offers you Five Methods that are designed to enable all types of people to reprogram all kinds and intensities of addictions. If you wish to accelerate your journey into higher consciousness, work hard to develop the maximum skill at using all of the Five Methods. You will then find that your biocomputer will automatically select the Method that is just perfect for each reprogramming problem.